How I Found God

“How did you find God?  Like, what happened?  What clicked?  What does it feel like?”

A friend of mine texted me this question out of the blue tonight.  
It took me a while to respond.  
Not because I didn’t know what to say.  
I just didn’t know how to say it.  

Here's my futile attempt.


I believe the Bible is the infallible Word of God.  Whatever it says is right and true and holy.  
One verse in it talks about how man has fallen short of the glory of God.  
This means that we as humans cannot compare to God’s glory and because of the sin in our lives, there is a barrier between us and Him.  

But there is hope!  

Because God loves His creation, He wanted to save us from ourselves, from the sin that we carry in our imperfect souls and that is in this world, so He sent His only Son to come to this earth and die for us, making Himself a human sacrifice.  And because of His blood covering us, God no longer sees our sin.  He sees His Son’s perfection and selfless love.

As far as how I found God, well, I didn’t.  

He found me.  

Because since the creation of the world, His invisible attributes, His eternal power and His divine nature have been clearly seen by all, so no one is without excuse of His power and glory.  You can’t look at this universe, the galaxies, a newborn baby, a snowflake, a fingerprint, without seeing His beautiful and perfect design.  He’s a Creator who is intimately acquainted with His creation and takes delight in showing His glory through His work.  He wants to have a relationship with us.  That’s how He designed for it to be in the Garden of Eden, but man chose sin over God and thus began the barrier between human and holy.  

Before He found me, I was just a wandering soul, living in a human world, content in my own way of life.  No person wakes up one day and decides “I’m going to follow Jesus.”  It doesn’t work like that.  There has to be an inward change of the heart, and then an outward declaration of faith.  

But the only One who can change the heart is the Holy Spirit.  

You see, God is a God of order.  He is not chaotic.  He plans, He purposes, He predestines.  Before the foundation of the world, He foreknew His chosen ones, the ones He would conform into the image of His Son.  And the ones He predestines, He calls.  And the ones who come, He justifies.  And the ones He justifies, He glorifies.  

What does it feel like?  Well, I will be one hundred percent honest and say that the Christian life is no easy journey.  It’s not all sunshine and roses once you’ve received His calling and committed to a relationship with Him.  


Because it goes against human nature.  

We want to be our own god.  We want to make our own decisions.  We want to make our own rules.  God gave us His Word because He knows what’s best for us and what is evil and what is right.  And through it, He tells us so.  The enemy, also, wages wars against God’s people.  We do not fight battles against flesh and blood but against evil spirits and the world forces of darkness.  The war has already been won though.  After He died on the cross, Jesus was buried for three days, yet rose again, defeating the greatest curse - death.  

He has overcome.  
And we will win.  

For greater is He who is in us, then he who is of the world.  

And I consider that anything I suffer from in this present age won’t be worthy to be compared to the glory that I will receive when I die and go to heaven.  

So no, I didn’t find God.  He found me.  

And by His sovereign unexplainable love, He chose me as one of His own.

What does it feel like?
It feels like the most freedom you can ever have, the greatest victory you will ever experience, and the sweetest love you will ever receive.

And while the Christian walk is a difficult journey to follow, I will never regret my commitment to Him.  He gave His life for me, so I’m living my life for Him.  

And He is so worth it.


50 Ways To Pray For Your Future Husband

  1. Pray that he lives in accordance with God's plan for his life
  2. Pray that he would be steadfast in the knowledge of his identity in Christ
  3. Pray that he will be learning to lead your future family 
  4. Pray that he is a hard worker
  5. Pray that the LORD will bless his job
  6. Pray that he be a witness for Christ wherever he goes
  7. Pray that he is blessed with godly friends
  8. Pray that he is surrounded by people who bring him up, not tear him down
  9. Pray that he learns to love as God desires him to
  10. Pray that he would lean on Christ in his trials
  11. Pray that he will hope in the LORD
  12. Pray that he would learn to trust, and trust the right individuals
  13. Pray that he will be content
  14. Pray that he would have a giving heart
  15. Pray that he would sacrifice himself for God and others
  16. Pray that he will always seek God first
  17. Pray that he will submit to God and any authorities that are over him
  18. Pray that he would trust in God's plan, not his own
  19. Pray that he would give everything to the LORD in prayer
  20. Pray that he would seek wisdom
  21. Pray that he would set aside daily time to spend with Jesus
  22. Pray that he would have a humble, teachable spirit
  23. Pray that he learn to control his anger
  24. Pray that God would give him discernment
  25. Pray that he wouldn't let past relationships affect his relationship with you
  26. Pray that the LORD would teach him to be a good husband, and likewise you, to be a good wife
  27. Pray that he would submit his fears to God
  28. Pray that he would fully grasp his purpose in Christ
  29. Pray that he would constantly be reminded of God's love for him in everyday life
  30. Pray that he would boldly declare the Truth of the Gospel
  31. Pray that he would grow spiritually through reading, studying and prayer
  32. Pray that he would be bold and confident in sharing Christ's love with others
  33. Pray that he would be quick to forgive
  34. Pray that he'll live a self-controlled life that is a result of his salvation
  35. Pray that he will grow and flourish because of his trust in the LORD
  36. Pray that others can see God through him and the way he lives his life
  37. Pray that he will be faithful in all things
  38. Pray for his maturity
  39. Pray for his integrity
  40. Pray for his protection against temptations
  41. Pray for his purity
  42. Pray for his patience
  43. Pray for his family, and his relationship with each of his family members
  44. Pray for his discernment in handling finances and that he would be good with his money
  45. Pray for his health
  46. Pray strength over him
  47. Pray for his humility
  48. Pray for his heart
  49. Pray that God's face will shine upon him
  50. Pray that God will be glorified in your future marriage


Loving Someone Is A Privilege

Loving someone is a privilege. 

It's a rare occurrence when someone trusts you with their heart and gives you the power to either bless or break it. 
But everyone loves differently, and needs to be loved differently. And because love is selfless, it's important to love them the way they need to be loved.

While your significant other may need words of affirmation, but you are more of a physical touch sort of person, learn to love them through words that they need to hear. Or if you feel loved through acts of service, but your partner feels love most through gifts, then they need to learn how to help you with projects and not expect you to feel love from them through buying you gifts that they would like.

Relationships take time and effort. You should never change who you are for someone else, unless it's in a healthy way. And learning how to live and love to make your partner happy and feel loved can be a rough road sometimes.

Relationships aren't easy. It's about two imperfect people choosing each other above anyone else they know or will meet and continuing to choose that person through the good, the bad and the ugly. 
Learn about your significant other. 
Learn how to love them because afterall, they're giving you that special honor to care for them and their heart. 
They don't need you to survive this life. 
They're choosing to let you be a part of it. 
Don't take that for granted. 

And don't let them regret their choice.


I Support the Right To Bear Firearms

With all these stupid gun control debates, I thought I'd show my support of firearms by posting this picture. 
I grew up around guns. I shot my first one when I was about eight years old. 
My uncle taught me how to aim, Mama taught me how to squeeze the trigger, and my other uncle taught me how to breathe while shooting. 
I've shot rifles, pistols, gone skeet-shooting, and target practiced. 
Guns themselves aren't harmful.  It's all about who's handling them, and who's pulling the trigger.  In this day and age, I actually feel safe knowing that firearms are nearby and that I can use one if need be. 
I believe they should only be used in self-defense, to put meat in the freezer, or for practice shooting in a safe area.
I support the right to bear firearms. And will use them without hesitation to protect myself and the ones I love.


6 Ways To Know You're Guaranteed To Lose Me

1) If you ever lie to me
Honesty is one of the key elements to any relationship.  I trust that someone is telling me the truth until they give me a reason not to trust them anymore.  And once that happens, that trust will take forever to rebuild.  If ever at all.

2) If you ever yell at me
I've had too much experience with guys looming over me, demanding this or that, and thinking that raising their voices at me will make me "listen better" or "pay attention" or that that's the best way to get a point across to me.  But it has the opposite affect.  I lose respect for them.  I get scared.  And above all, want to be as far away from them as possible.

3) If you ever manipulate me
I don't think girls realize how easily guys tend to manipulate us.  It took me a while before figuring out that the way a certain guy would talk to me, and ask me things, or try to get me to do things for him, were all forms of manipulation.  The second a guy says or does something to make YOU feel bad, it's manipulation for something that he wants you to do.  I've had too much experience with this and am very aware now of when it's happening.  Thanks to a few jerks I've had the pleasure of knowing.

4) If you ever give me a reason to not trust you
I would never be in a relationship with someone I didn't trust.  And by trust, I mean, trust in and with anything.  Money, girls, my belongings, my family.

5) If you ever hurt me
I don't know which is worse - physical or emotional abuse.  I don't think either can be weighed in a spectrum of painful damage.  I've experienced both and I can guarantee that if either happens just once, you won't get a second chance.

6) If you ever stop pursuing me
This may sound like an attention-seeking, childish reason, but in all honesty, there's nothing worse than falling for someone, going through the honeymoon stage and then one day, waking up and realizing that they're "used to you".  If you truly love someone, you will pursue them indefinitely.  You won't take them for granted.  You won't assume that they'll just always be there.  They're choosing to love you, as you should choose to love them.  And show them this love.  Even if you aren't a super heart-to-heart, oozing feelings type of person, there are always ways you can show your significant other that you appreciate them, and love them in the way they need to be loved and how they need to feel valued.


Reason Vs. Choice | a poem | #NationalPoetryDay

It’s true that the initial motivation for why you fall for someone is because of an obvious reason.

It can be anything from the way they smiled at you when you first met
  How you can’t breathe when they’re around
    How their very existence makes you thankful for your own life
      How you are when you’re around them

These are all wonderful reasons to love someone.  But the choice of love is another matter
For to stay in love with someone is a decision, a choicenot because of reasons. 

Reasons come and go.  Reasons change.

There will be days when they won’t smile at you
Where you’ll be too mad at each other to let your breath be taken away or your heart skip a beat
There will be a time when you wish you didn’t have to see them at the moment because you hurt each other so badly
And there will even be a time that you don’t like who you are when you’re around them.

It’s in those moments that you must decide:

  Do I love this person for the good memories of reasons that I have stored away?

    Or do I choose to love this person simply because no reason is good enough

      And because love is the ultimate incentive?


Unbreakable | a poem

I love you for being so unbreakable
You have fought and conquered
You have fought and been defeated
But neither end results has wavered my admiration for you
Your heart
Your character
Both so strong
Yet so fragile
I love you for being so unbreakable
No matter the constant flurry of trials and pain
That life sends your way
You are steadfast
A resolute rock, sturdy amidst the crashing waves
I love you for being so unbreakable
You are a true example for many to learn from
Your legacy will be written of in the sky, in the sand
An individual who is firm regardless of the times you've been beaten down
You always manage to stand back up
To move forward
To fight another day
I love you for being so unbreakable
And for encouraging me to do the same.


Meeting Your Own Criteria

I think it can be safe to say that we all have a certain criteria that we’d like our future spouse to meet.  You pray that he/she is faithful, God-honoring, kind, gentle.  And these are all wonderful characteristics to look for.  But when you put all of that together into the person you would consider "perfect", can you look at yourself and say, "I’m the exact kind of person he/she wants"?

It’s a very humbling and convicting thought.  
And one that I’ve been wondering a lot about lately.  

Am I the kind of person the person I want is looking for?

You want them to love God.  But are you a faithful Christian?
You want them to be loyal.  But are you a loyal person?
You want them to be hard-working.  But do you have a good work ethic and are you goal-oriented?

First of all, remember that there is no such thing as a perfect person.  
Secondly, no matter how much you want to be perfect or "good enough" for the person you want, you can only do so much to cover up your imperfections and hide your mistakes.  You can try to look as good as possible, try to impress people, try to be someone who the person you want would want, but we, as humans, are pretty decent actors.  And if you don’t want your future spouse to be a good actor (a.k.a. liar) to you, then you should be just as brutally honest and transparent as you want them to be with you.  

Oh but I won’t leave you on that borderline depressing, almost heart-aching note.

This world focuses on the outward appearance.  Everywhere we look, the body is glorified, is made more beautiful, is praised.  And yes, here enters the very cliche, overrated line of: But what matters most is what’s in the heart.  This goes hand-in-hand with the fact that we are imperfect, we all have things in our past that we wish we could erase, we have all made mistakes.  But where we are now, who we are now - this is what I want to focus on.

The person God has planned for you is someone who will see you through Christ’s eyes.  And Christ sees you as forgiven and beautiful.  There’s nothing you can ever do to make yourself better.  Jesus already accomplished this.  In His Father’s eyes, you are completely clean. White. Pure. 

"It’s when we see how imperfect we are, that He does the most amazing things in and through us."

You’ll have days that you’ll be super focused on God, feeling good about your spiritual, physical and emotional life, and then whoops! You slip up. You make mistakes. 

You aren’t perfect.  

But neither is your future spouse.  

You’re not the only one who is imperfect.  Your future wife may be wishing she hadn’t said or done that one thing.  Your future husband might be hoping that he’ll never have to face that temptation again.  You’re not alone.  And the love God will give both of you in your union is more than enough to overshadow both of your mistakes.

God is always breaking, healing, stretching and growing us.  If you were perfect, there’d be no more room to grow and learn more about Christ’s love.  And a relationship/marriage is just a bigger step in being taught about Him.  Being in a committed relationship with someone is a process of working together.  Two imperfect people, serving a perfect God, and striving to push each other more towards Him.  

"God uses the most imperfect people to accomplish His perfect will."

You’re focused on your imperfections and how unattractive they are, but God’s grace covers all of them so that even your future spouse will see you for you who are in Jesus - covered in grace and beauty.  "Love covers a multitude of sins."  This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t strive to be more like Christ.  But while we’re doing that, we don’t have to beat ourselves up over our imperfections.  We can - and must - still work towards being a better person, being a better Christian, and being more of the kind of man/woman the person we want wants.  But don’t stress.  
God’s got this taken care of.  
The story has already been written.