You Need To Get a Boyfriend

‘You need to get a boyfriend.’

These words were said to me just a couple weeks ago.

I sighed.  I need to get a boyfriend, I thought to myself.

Wait!  Do I really?

In today’s culture, it’s a norm for 13 year olds to have boyfriends.  It’s pretty cool to have one when you’re 12.  A bit of a new idea to have one when you’re 11.  And it’s okay if you have one when you’re 10.  I mean, better sooner than later, right?  How can a little girl who is allowed to watch chic flicks at the age of 9 not be allowed to have a boyfriend at age 10?

I remember the first time I was asked if I had a boyfriend.  I was about 13, maybe 14.  I honestly didn’t know how to respond at first.  A lot of my peers had boyfriends already. 

So how did I respond to people’s questions of ‘Do you have a boyfriend yet?’ or ‘When are you getting a boyfriend?

I answered, with my innocent 13-year-old heart, ‘I don’t date.’

Most people were a little shocked (probably thinking in their heads ‘Wow!  That’s one crazy little girl!).

Others just kinda laughed.  To me, I didn’t really see anything so funny about it.  I didn’t date at age 13!  What use would a dating relationship be to me anyway?  I was just entering my teen years.  I had enough stress just figuring out who I was as a person. 

If you’ve read any of my other posts about guys, romance, etc. then you’d know that I’m a very romantic person.  Why am I so romantic?  

Well, #1I’m a girl.
#2God created romance and put it into each person.  (Yes, I know that’s hard to believe for some people, but really.  Everyone has looked at the opposite gender with attraction.)
#3Romance is beautiful.

But as a daughter of the King, I know and trust and have faith in HIM, that He will bring ‘that boyfriend’ to me soon…and as soon as HE pleases.

For now…I’ll just have to keep on being that romantic girl who ‘needs to get a boyfriend’. ;)

Trust God and stay strong!  I know there are other romancers out there too ;) 


  1. Miss Raquel, I love this! You and I share the same mindset on dating (and it seems have been through a few similar experiences=P) I was just wondering if I could copy this to my blog (www.hishandmaiden.com) as a guest post? Or you could write a whole new guest post (on this topic)... credit would go to you, of course=)

    Thank you for such a lovely post!
    In our Abba,


  2. Raquel! Lovely post. It is so sad what has become acceptable and NORMAL in today's culture. I SO admire your obedience to God and willingness to wait, even when it's hard. He will bless you for it.

  3. Hello,

    Lovely post and wonderful thinking. Sometimes I wonder why any one should date at such an early age. Would it not be better to get a good college education, have a good job and think of dating. In this case a person's attention will not be diverted from the basic purpose of getting a good education and laying a solid foundation for life.

    Well cultures vary and may be I am a bit old fashioned. Any way my best wishes to you.

  4. I know exactly what you mean. I don't date either. And I get strange looks for it. But I'm fine that way. I've seen friends of mine get broken hearts because they dated when they weren't ready.

    (And I'm a verrrrry romantic girl:)))))

  5. Great Post! It seems that more and more as I get older, people seem to think that I have a boyfriend and when I shake my head no they are totally shocked. It has definitely made me think twice about dating, but I know that now is not the time -and I have met people that respect that response. Since I attend classes I've had some of my friends try to set me up, which just makes it that much more challenging to not give in to that desire. But I know though that with the help of God I can stay strong and true to my beliefs and standards.

    ~Miss.Adriana Castillo

  6. That is so true, Raquel. God created true, love for one man and one woman. I have heard it described; "When you date, it is like that person is eating a part of the 'whole cake' that God gave you. When you get married, you want to have the complete cake to offer to your husband."

    God has a plan; if He does have a husband out there for 'us' gals, He will show us, and lead us.

    Great post! Thank you so much for sharing that important truth.

    In Christ,

  7. :)
    you and me both, Raquel. I have so many people {friends included!} tell me that I should have a boyfriend. *sighs* I'm tempted to show them this post, so they can see why I don't NEED a boyfriend to make me happy. ;)

    so yes....thank you for this, dear. <3

  8. I love that quote picture! I agree, I can't wait 'til that happens to me! I just need to remind myself to be patient, because God's plan for my life, is better than my own. :) Great post!

  9. I really felt this post encourage me Raquel. Today at Co'op one of the younger girls asked me which guy I would date if I had to in our class. I said none. And she pursued it more. So I said "I'm not dating until I'm 18" And she was like "Okay, well which one would you date when your 18?" I can't remember my exact answer but it was still that I wouldn't. She seemed kinda confused and weirded out by that. I can remember going through the stage were I wanted to have a boyfriend at thirteen because that was everyone did! Give it a year and I'm not kissing until my wedding day :) I can see that it is a stage that we usually grow out of. I sure hope that these girls growing up will see that they are more important than the whims of the world. And ooh...that picture/quote thing sure mad me go into fantasy land for a second :) Sierra
    Keep Growing Beautiful♥ (Cause You Are!)

  10. Great post.

    lol,I'm 16 and I would still say." No,I don't date." and then of course wait for the strange stare ;)

    I love that photo at the end.

    Thanks for sharing.

  11. Wonderful! I'm romantic too, but like you said, we have to trust God to bring the right guy along.
    I'm sixteen, and I don't date either!
    I love that picture/quote thing by the way. So sweet!

  12. Oh goodness, I'm with you there. I don't know how many times I've had "the look" after I mention to someone that I am not dating yet. And for me, I have a different idea of dating I guess, its more of a mix between courtship and dating but more on the courtship side. I just realised how confusing that must have sounded...

    Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for this post, it really encouraged me :)

    JesusChick <3

  13. loved this, Raquel! just what i needed at this moment in my life where all my dreams are full of romance...

    and @JesusChick, same here! i completely understand you on the whole dating and courtship thing :)


  14. Wow! I loved this! I know what you mean! I am in your shoes! People ask me that all the time. Every now and then..ok, I lied. More then every now and then...ALOT of the time I wish I could day yes. Yes I do have a boyfriend. It makes me feel almost giddy to think of hearing those words come out of my mouth. I am a girl. What girl doesn't want a boy to think she is perfect, beautiful, and what he loves. We all do at some time or other! But all of it is in God's hands. I don't know what I would do if it wasn't! :)
    --Sara Beth

  15. Great post my dear. :) We see eye-to-eye on this one..I did a post almost just like it a few weeks ago!


    Awesome thoughts here. KEEP SHINING FOR CHRIST, RAQUEL! You put this wonderfully.


    P.S. (Thanks for the "get well" wish! I am feeling SO much better today. :) Also--haha, I know whatcha mean! I think it's a pretty cool day. ;) I'm not too into coffee, as I said, but the drink you mentioned sounds amazing! No, sadly, I didn't take any of the pictures...:.( :)

  16. thanks for stopping by my blog, Raquel! i appreciate your sweet comment. :) (and i do love your name)

  17. In today's culture 10, 11 and 12-year-olds are "expected" to date. Parents think it is "cute" when their 10-year-olds go to a movie and hold hands - it's not. If that happens at such a young age - HELLO, what do you expect at 16, 17 and 18!? It was interesting to see this post, Raquel, because I have one similar that I need to post one of these days. =D

  18. Thank you sweetheart :] I needed that.

    I am the last person you would think to be a romantic, and yet.... sshhh...... I am!
    Just don't tell anyone ;)

  19. One of my younger sisters (who's ten) got asked if she had a boyfriend ...it's amazing what this culture's doing to girls. I like saying I have boys who are friends but not boyfriends.

  20. I love the way you put this!

  21. amen, sistah! love the quote ;)

  22. ah I love this!! thank you so much :)


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