6.11.2012

Content with God = Content Forever


Have you ever heard that saying ‘Content while single, content while married’?


Well, I have.

And God has been teaching me a lot about what that means lately.

Like you all know, I am a very romantic person. (some of you are probably rolling your eyes… ‘yes, Miss Raquel, we know very well!’) Having that romantic imagination can sometimes get the best of me. And I can get too carried away in dreaming and fantasizing about the future (…I can’t believe I’m admitting all this to the world…). But you have to come back to earth every once in a while. And whenever I did, I found myself being discontent with my life…my relationships…my singleness. And it wasn’t healthy.


Little things that I came across convicted me that what I’d been doing was wrong. And that I needed to learn to be content with where I am in life right now…not where I will be in the future.

A boyfriend won’t make my life better. Love won’t make it more beautiful. A husband won’t make life
 perfect. Marriage won’t make life easier.

My God is the One Who makes life beautiful. Even when I mess up…even when I fail Him…He’s always there to pick me right back up. To help me move on. To help me see the good in this bad world. HE makes my life perfect. A mortal man won’t.

Suddenly, my eyes were opened. I felt like I had been walking with my eyes closed, dreaming. Instead of open, looking at what my life held for me NOW.

My eyes were open to see the beautiful singleness that I am experiencing right now. I became…content. Content with where God has me in life right now. Content with not having a boyfriend. Content with knowing that God has my man for me, somewhere, right now.

No…this doesn’t make me any less romantic:) Yes, it’s a little difficult to hear my friends talk about their bf/gf. To talk about their latest date. To tell me all the wonderful things they love about their significant other. I cannot WAIT to be able to tell others about my amazing, handsome man. But…at the moment…I can’t. I am…learning to be content. If I can’t be content now, unmarried, as a single young lady, serving the LORD in her father’s house…how will I continue to be content as a married young woman, serving the LORD in my husband’s house?

Stay strong, dear brothers and sisters. You’re not in this alone. <3

Content with God = Content Forever.

::hugs::

{all photos via Pinterest}

21 comments:

  1. So many young women seem in such a hurry to marry. To the point where they almost seem "desperate" and I think that is horrible. I look at this time as a time to enjoy, to grow in Christ - to be sure I am where I want to be in my relationship with God before I am in a relationship with a guy.

    Single-ness is meant to be a great time in your life because once marriage comes, your life will change completely but still be wonderful... just in a different way. :-)

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  2. Wonderful post Miss Raquel! It is always best to leave our future to God versus planning each detail out ourselves...this I've often been guilty of without even realizing it. Thanks so much for sharing and may the Lord bless you in your efforts to stay content in Him!
    Bethany
    www.royal-daughters-of-the-king.blogspot.com

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  3. and being contented in the fact that god MAY not have someone for you at all....

    i am a 31 year old christian woman who is still wondering if i will ever marry.

    if i could go back and tell my teenage self one piece of advice, it would be not to pray for my future husband; but for my future self: single or married--- to continue to do god's work.

    last week i read a book by a 4o year old hopeless romantic who has devoted her life to writing and pursuing the works of jane austen. again, a christian woman who prayed and prayed for a husband and a family and is now beyond the age of having children.

    i'm not saying that doors close; i'm just saying that i remember praying for a husband at 18 and through my 20s and now into my 30s and waiting as the hopeless romantic that i am.

    it could happen for me, it could happen for you; but i sincerely believe that women need to learn to trust that god will provide contentment for the long term and even those romantic girls who love god with all of their hearts and souls and prayer continuously for a future husband may have to contend with being alone.

    :) god has a perfect path for everyone

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  4. Yes yes!! My youth pastor was talking about how we have the most time when we are single. Even though we have school and jobs, we don't have a family to support or children to take care of. We need to take that time and serve him with it!

    I've found that reading Romance books and listening to romantic music (a lot) also promotes that unhealthy thinking at this time in our lives.

    Great post Raquel! Very encouraging. :)

    xoxo,
    Natalie

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  5. Ummmm....this is good. It's crazy to imagine if we were in charge. We'd mess it all up.
    Marriage is such a good thing we mess up. We forget the point...that it's a picture of God's love for His people.

    Thanks for this! It was very much needed for my soul to hear.

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  6. I sooooooooo needed to read this! I have been learning the same lesson. I consider myself a pretty content person, but patient I am not. So, I know the Lord is teaching me patience, as well as preparing me and my future man for our future together. Of course, I usually have to remind myself of this fact every day, sometimes within an hour of each other. I've found that the busier I am the better. So once again, thank you for this post! :)

    http://trueelegance92.blogspot.com/

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  7. This is so beautifully true, girl. <3 I have tis problem myself. I think about what life would be like when I am married, etc. way more than I should!

    {{hugs}}
    ~bree

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  8. That is a great post, which I think so SO many people need to hear. :) It was really REALLY encouraging, I'm glad I found your blog! 1 Timothy 6 vs 6: "but godliness with contentment is great gain." It's not an easy verse to get instantly, but it's so relevant to this. Our contentment is in Christ our Lord, not found anywhere else. Entering a relationship with that motive is a bad move anyway!

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  9. I came to this realization recently, too! I do eventually want a boyfriend, but to be honest there are some things I need to work through in my life before I add an extra person, ya know? Stay strong, Raquel! :)

    - Lydia ♥

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  10. I've been dealing the same thing in the past couple weeks! And I've come the same conclusion...and God is working on my heart. He is so good!

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  11. So much truth here, Raquel. Thanks for sharing!

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  12. I think us hopeless romantic's fall in to the trap of watching romantic movies or reading romantic novels which totally messes with our emotional purity. I'm not totally content where I am right now (I'm close though.)...more cause I'm dying to go off on my own to a bible school,or a mission field,not marriage,I always knew I was to young,but yeah who can help,but wonder who,when and where you'll meet your future hubby if you meet him. But I know I'm so not ready for marriage ( I'm only 17 for crying out loud,so I hope I'm not dying to get married yet.) I think teenagers start wondering about who they will marry,so much they forget about their heavenly bridegroom Jesus. Let the girls of this nation put away their romantic thoughts and start serving and pleasing God in our youth.

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  13. Amen!!
    I know all to well about that over active imagination, I too some time day dream and go off into my own mind pondering what life will be like in the future, marriage, love and so much more.
    But I also did the same and realized I need to be happy with the NOW and not the Later...
    God wants all of us and not Just parts of us... He is a jealous God and if we tend to loose focus on him we will never know what the outcome can be!
    I to am learning to be content and have, but do not get me wrong there are days I do imagine which is fine but when you start to only dream and imagine and let that take over your life if can have an effect on you in many ways.
    God knows are wants and needs and when he see it fit to give us something then it's his will..
    We just need to faithfully follow him and walk daily with him.god will bless us with what we need, because if we push something over and over again he might cave in and give it to us but it was not what he wanted.
    And that outcome might not be good for us. That's why he ask us to wait, to have patients, and to trust in him!
    It may be a battle sometimes but in the end it is all worth the wait!!

    Thanks for the post it was really a blessing to see that I am not the only one to have overly imagined things (day dreamed).. he-he


    Heather - http://notw4life.blogspot.com/

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  14. Indeed! Oh what peace and blessings we experience when we trust in the Lord for all things!!

    I'd also heartily recommend the book
    "Getting Serious about Getting Married"
    by Debbie Maken. It's an amazing read!!

    xoxo
    ~Miss Jen

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  15. I've been going through this exact same thing these days. Thank you for posting, it was such a blessing to read. :)

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  16. I needed to hear this today. Thank you for being so honest! This post couldn't have come at a greater time.

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  17. Over this past year, God has really been showing me just how much I have to be thankful for. And when you see how much you have, mother, father, siblings, friends, and all those other people (like fellow bloggers), you just have to be thankful for them. And being thankful is where contentment starts. I know that I am very, very blessed with all the people that God has put in my life! This past year, God has been showing me what a beautiful life he gave me. More and more I find myself just loving these relationships and these times. I do have want and hope to marry eventually (Lord willing), but for now, I will make the most of these days. I will be content and I will serve the Lord now. Life doesn't start after you marry. Life is now. So we need to take every thought "captive" for Christ.
    Thank you for this post! It is great seeing others realize this too.
    Stay strong girl!

    Laurel

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  18. Thank you *hugs*. I have actually been thinking about the same thing recently, so this just summarized all my scrambling thoughts and emotions. Thank you SO much.

    God bless you,

    Rae

    thesweetandthesimple.blogspot.com

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  19. Funny, I was thinking pretty hard about this very topic today, actually it's been on my mind for a while now.

    When I started reading this I was like "Oh no, Raquel's got content fever." Before I even got half way through I was thinking about my reply "Raquel, please don't take contentment to an extreme, please, please, PLEASE don't go waaay over to other side and get off balanced" but as I finished, it became quite obvious to me that (once again) Raquel has achieved a balance between... and it's a beautiful thing if you ask me.

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  20. This is true. I've never actually heard that saying before but I definitely found it to be true in my experience. When my friends asked me if I wanted a boyfriend when I was 16, I could honestly say no, I was happy and content where I was. A few years later, at 18 and in college, I was still happy single. Then, out of nowhere, my Angel showed up, and I was happy being his girlfriend, fiancee, and wife. Enjoy singleness, it may last a while, or it may not, you don't know! Besides, I don't think it's a good idea to get into relationships unless you're ready and want to get married in the near future. (But I may be biased--I went from having-never-had-a-boyfriend to wife in eight months) :)

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  21. Proverbs 3:5-6: Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

    Being content can be hard but if we trust him for everything in our life then it's easier to be content because we don't have to worry about what tomorrow will bring.

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