This post is actually the result of three different posts that I had in mind. They each had to do with love. And in the end, I just decided to put them altogether. I thought they would fit.
So, lately, a lot of my peers and friends have been getting together with someone. Someone special in their lives. Someone that they really, really like. Someone that is taking up a lot of their attention and time.
Okay, I’ll just say it the way it is. My friends are beginning to start relationships and I feel left behind.
There, I said it. I was honest. And I know (for a fact) that all of you people are experiencing this too. Don’t lie.
This is gonna be a bit of a difficult post to write, just because I really, really want you all to know where I’m coming from. And that I’m NOT complaining or whining. Really. This is something that the LORD has been working in my heart and I just want to share what I’ve been learning. It’s one thing to complain and not be content with your life...but it’s another matter entirely to let someone know you’re struggling.
It’s hard to see your peers with someone they love. And you, alone. When they have someone to hold hands with, and hug, and kiss, and sit close to. And then there's you, without any of those. Don’t bother trying to explain what that feeling is like. Because I experience it too.
But something that my heavenly Father has been teaching me is this...
No one - no man - can love me more than He does. And that I must remember that He will not withhold anything good from those who walk in righteousness. Anything good. And anything that He sees fitting for me; to bless me with.
‘For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD gives grace and glory; No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.’
- Psalm 84:11
Another thing He has shown me is to not worry that I’m single. To be anxious for nothing (Phil. 4:6). For He makes everything beautiful in His time (Eccl. 3:11).
Dear friends, when our direct relationship with Christ is what we focus on and strive to cultivate and cherish and work at...everything else will fall into place. Everything.
He loves us so, So, SO incredibly much that He loves to bless us. He takes delight in blessing His children and seeing them happy. You may wonder sometimes ‘well, why doesn’t he bless me with a guy/girl?’ or ‘If He wants to make me happy, why hasn’t He sent my significant other to me already?’
I have a very good answer for that. Really, it’s the only answer there IS to those kinds of questions.
He is perfecting you for the one He has chosen for you.
God has a person set apart for YOU. That person may not be perfect in this world's standards, and maybe not even in yours. But in the eyes of God, that person will be the perfect one for you. The Father has made BOTH of you precisely for each other.
And until you meet that person, all we can do right now is glory in this crazy love that God has for us. This amazing, unfathomable love that He loves us with. Friends, we will never, ever be able to grasp how much our Father truly loves us. In every little detail of our lives, His love is engraved so deeply into it. We may not always see it. We may not always understand right away. But through lessons learned...through tears cried...through impatient waiting...God continues to mold us into the person He wants us to become.
Stop and think - or at least try to - of this crazy love. This crazy love that the your Jesus has for you. I promise you’ll never be able to think on it long enough to fully understand it. I’m still trying...
Even when life hurts...and is confusing...of one thing I am sure. This crazy love that God has for me. I'm still trying to wrap my imagination around how big it is...and I know I never will. So all I can do is return, is love Him back.