Is having a boyfriend a bad thing?

Is having a boyfriend a bad thing?  Or is it okay to date within reason?

Having a boyfriend isn’t a ‘bad’ thing, if you know where that relationship is headed.  Personally, I don’t agree with guys and girls dating and having gf/bf-s if they’re not intending to get serious about their relationship in the near future.  What’s the use of having a boyfriend then?  Just to say that you do?  So that you’re not lonely?  Being in a relationship should be a serious thing.  The modern world has watered it down so drastically, though, that having a boyfriend is a common thing - even for a nine year old!  

And about ‘dating within reason’...
It depends on what your ‘reason’ is.  Does it fall under any of the categories I mentioned above?  Or are you dating ‘within a reason’ of furthering your relationship as two individuals who are planning to actually getting married.
‘To date’ is another phrase that is loosely used in our society.  It’s a time when two people get to know each other ‘as friends’ and kind of test the waters to see if they have a mutual interest in each other.  Also, ‘dating’ in the world means that the relationship is by no means long-term, and that they can ‘break up’ at any time.  That type of dating, I do not agree with.  
On the other hand, I’ve heard of people referring to dating as a ‘laid-back type of courtship’...if someone is dating and they are chaperoned and plan on getting married, I think that’s a great mindset to have.  And honestly, that is ‘dating within reason’.


God Kisses

You know those moments when...something happens in your day that is totally unexpected but needed?

Times when you're going through something difficult and God just decides to send a little something to bless and encourage you?

Moments when you're struck by wonder at God's love and care for you?

I had a few such encounters this week.  I call these 'God kisses'. < 3


I've been home for about 3 weeks.  With everything that happened with my sister, I was needed at home to watch kids, make meals, etc. (more than usual).  I wasn't able to go to church (for various reasons), hadn't seen anyone outside of my family for said amount of weeks.  I was almost to the brink of insanity.
And then, my bro came home (from house-sitting).  'Raquel,' he told me.  'We're going up to Camano Island.'  And of course, there's only one reason we would do that...to visit some dear, dear friends of ours.  We like to say we've known them since before we were born cuz the parents of that family knew OUR parents long before any of us kiddos were brought into this world. haha
So that was the first God kiss.

On Sunday, we attended our friends' church.  I remember being there last time and that the pastor had spoken a sermon I had really needed to hear.  Well, this Sunday was no exception.  Earlier last week, I had been reading the parable of the sower in Matthew.  I had thought to myself 'Hmmm...I haven't heard a sermon on this parable in a while.'  Well?  What should the pastor at this church I was visiting preach on the Sunday I was there?;)  'The Parable of the Sower' was his sermon's title.
That was the second God kiss.

During the service, I was beginning to feel really sleepy.  I don't know why really, cuz I had slept pretty well the night before.  So I prayed and was like 'God, I need You to help me stay awake here.  Please?' Literally, within the next 10 minutes, I was as wide awake as if I had eaten an energy bar.
Yes, that was definitely the third God kiss.

Later that evening, a big group of us decided to take a Sunday evening walk along the beach.  And friends, the sky alone made me lose my breath.  The picture at the top of this post is one that I took on my iPod.  It's UNEDITED.  That is just pure raw beauty that God decided to paint that night.
The fourth God kiss.

This afternoon, my bro, friends and I arrived home safely, only to be greeted with sad news.  The baby that my Mama was carrying went home to rest in Jesus' arms.  It was a difficult thing to receive, but 'the LORD giveth and the LORD taketh away.  Blessed be the Name of the LORD'...amen?  And after Mama had told us, I went to my room to pray and cry a little...and within five minutes, three friends texted me.  One asking how I was doing, another saying she loves me, and another who was welcoming me home.  I almost started crying just from sheer gratitude and being so blessed with such loving and amazing friends.
The fifth God kiss.


What were some God kisses to YOU this week?


A Real Man

A real man is the kind of man a woman wants to give her life to.

A real man will respect her dignity.

A real man will not tempt a woman.

A real man will not persuade a lady to go against her conscience.

A real man will save himself only for his lady.

A real man will love her for who she is - with all her faults and flaws, as well as beauties and talents.

A real man will honor his lady like the valuable treasure she is.

A real man will not attempt to rip her precious pearl from its protective shell or persuade her with charm to give him her treasure before its time.

A real man will wait patiently and fight valiantly, until she willingly gives him the prize of her heart.

A real man will cherish and care for that prize forever.

A real man does not make his lady jealous of other women, but instead makes other women jealous of his lady.

But above all, a real man loves the LORD with all his heart, mind, and strength.  He loves Him more than he loves his lady.  And dedicates his life to living for Him and pushing his lady closer to their Savior.

A real man tries to imitate Christ in all his ways - with humbleness, lovingly, gentle, kind...

A real man prays daily.


Girls, if the man you like, have a crush on, or are currently dating, does not match up to these should-be-requirements-for-every-possible-interest...I can promise you that God has someone else much better out there for you.  A real man who has your best interests at heart.  A real man who puts God first and you second.  A real man who loves you with the kind of love that only comes from above.