Yes, this is about sex {part 1}

**Be advised that this is not appropriate for all ages.  If you are under eighteen, please ask your parents before proceeding past this sentence.**

Before you being reading this, please note that no, I am not married.  No, I have never had sex.  And no, this article isn’t ‘my opinion’.  It’s my belief based on what I’ve studied in God’s Word.

I believe that sex is something a lot of people hesitate to talk about because it’s something that, yes, should be done privately.  But it’s also part of nature.  God created it.  I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of or embarrassed about.

Sex is a beautiful thing - when done right.  And by right, I mean, done when and where God intended it to be done.  Sex was intended for marriage, to be performed in a marriage, and only between a husband and wife.

What is the purpose of sex?

Well primarily, it’s the God-given physical symbol of a man and woman joining together as one, in marriage.  After that, it’s the beautiful and most intimate way of expressing love between a husband and wife.  It’s to satisfy each other.  It’s an unselfish demonstration of mutual passion of love that the couple has for each other.  And of course, the way to procreate.

Just think about it.

God first created animals.  And gave them the ability to procreate by mating.  God also chose to give sex to humans.  But for more reasons than just to make babies.  He gave it to us to enjoy.  And also to know your partner in the deepest and most intimate way possible.  In Genesis 2:24 it says, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.’  At weddings, you will hear the bride and groom exchange marriage vows.  Through these, they are joined together verbally and publically.  Afterwards, usually on the honeymoon, those vows are consecrated by the couple joining together physically by a physical union.  God designed men and women’s bodies to fit together perfectly.  That’s why gay marriage is so wrong and not natural.  (See my post on gay marriages HERE)

God created sex to be enjoyed within a marriage.  He looks down with joy on a couple showing this passionate love to each other when they are performing within His plan.  

Sex is just physical...isn’t it?

Actually, no, it’s not.  It’s so much more than that.

Why do you think that when someone has been sexually abused, it’s something they’re more ashamed of and scared of telling people than other traumas that may have happened in their lives?  

Especially for women.  Having sex is something that awakens a part of her that men don’t have.  Men are more physical, and are all about being physically satisfied.  Women are emotional.  Everything women do link back to some sort of emotion they have, a feeling they keep locked in their heart.  Even sex.

There’s a hormone that every girl has.  It’s called ‘oxytocin’.  Studies show that it’s released only three times in her life - when she has sex, when she gives birth and when she breastfeeds her baby.  This chemical emotionally attaches the woman to the other person for the rest of her life.  For men, it’s only released when bonding with their children.  Because of this hormone, a girl will always be emotionally connected to a man after she has sex with him.  So you think sex is a game?  Remember that it can mess up a girl’s brain and heart for the rest of her life.  This chemical also explains why we’re only supposed to have sex with one person.  And that one person should be the one you choose to spend the rest of your life with.

When is a person ready to have sex?

Well, there’s a one-question quiz that makes you answer that question yourself.  And that question is:

Are you married?

If your answer is ‘no’, then that’s the answer to your first question.
If your answer is ‘yes’, then by all means, enjoy!


‘Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for the fornicators and adulterers God will judge.’
- Hebrews 13:4


  1. Actually, oxytocin is a mammalian hormone. Both sexes experience the release of such in forms during any interaction with others, especially with physically stimulation. Even a hug does this. Sexual bonding does bring it on as well in other sexes. Women release large amounts in birth and in breastfeeding. Synthetic forms like Pitocin are used to help a woman bring on labor.
    Men and women both have a physical and emotional relationship to sex if they want a healthy relationship. It is both about the pleasure and the feelings it brings about it.
    All relationships are hard to lose, but sometimes it is for the best that they be cut. The heart can take a few breaks. After all, love is not finite. It grows. Only some wounds cannot be healed, but time heals all wounds. Sounds cliche, but it is true.

  2. I think this should be read in schools....