2.25.2013

Dear Men

This post is inspired by a trend that was running on Twitter.  It gave me an idea for a post, and this is a shout-out to all the guys reading this.
None of these are meant to put you down or make you feel like you're not trying/doing this already.
If you are, thank you.
If you aren't, this is a challenge.

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Dear Men,
You are male by nature, but a man by choice.


Dear Men,
Treat me as you would want guys to treat your sister.


Dear Men,
You should respect me because you respect yourself.



Dear Men,
Don't call yourself a 'gentleman' if you aren't prepared to back up your words and act like one.



Dear Men,
We love it when you take the effort to ask how our day has been.



Dear Men,
Asking a girl out over text is tacky and cheap.



Dear Men,
If you respect a woman even if she isn't a lady, that makes you more of a gentleman.



Dear Men,
Just holding the door open for me will make my respect for you go up a notch.



Dear Men,
Be the kind of man you would approve your daughters of marrying.



Dear Men,
Stay humble.



Dear Men,
Even the smallest act of kindness really does not go unnoticed by us.



Dear Men,
Chivalry never die; some of you just choose to ignore it.

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2.10.2013

Everyday Blessings // 10

Wow...this is my first 'Everyday Blessings' of 2013...


>> finding out that I'm going to Washington D.C. for a week in March (anybody wanna meet up?;)
>> getting a new iPod 5
>> getting a new Nikon baby (her name is Niina)
>> having friends visit for a few days
>> reaching 800+ followers on my blog (wow...)
>> learning new things about my Jesus every single day
>> new clothes from Target
>> starting to teach a new portrait drawing class
>> catching up with besties
>> seeing God work in the life of friends
>> new music
>> sending my bestie a Valentine's package
>> taking pictures with people I love
>> my cat cuddling in my lap
>> naps
>> chocolate

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What are some blessings God has shown you this month?

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'Worthy are You, our LORD and our God, to receive glory and honor and power; for You created all things and because of Your will they existed, and were created.'
- Revelation 4:11

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2.04.2013

How can I trust again?


I've had a very painful past with my father leaving our family for another woman when I was just a little girl.  Because of that, I have a very hard time trusting people and feeling secure.  I recently started seeing someone.  He has given me no reason not to trust him, but I can't help but wonder when he's going to leave or when will he want someone else.  And I hurt his feelings by feeling this way.  He understands my past, but is still hurt.  How do I stop having trust issues when he has been nothing but trustworthy?

This was probably one of the most heart-breaking questions I received this last week.  'Trust' is such a big part of life and I've never been in any sort of situation to experience such betrayal and pain as this girl had.

I sat here, staring at my laptop, for a good ten minutes, wondering just how I was going to reply to this.  Because I seriously had no idea how to say everything I was thinking.  And if what I was thinking was even a good answer.  I feel inadequate to be answering such a deep, painful question.

To the girl who submitted this question:
Thank you for trusting me enough to ask it.  I know it's a painful part of your life, and I feel touched that you would ask me my advice on it.
Sweetie, even if your father hurt your family by leaving - and continues to hurt you by ignoring your letters and phone calls - your Heavenly Father will never leave you.  I know it's hard to try to grasp the concept of the Creator of the universe being there for you, but it's something that none of us will really understand how and why.  But it's a promise that He gives us in His word.  'I will never leave you or forsake you'.  The boyfriend you have in your life right now sounds like someone special.  It sounds like you think a lot of him and that he has become a prominent person in your life.  But if you're still struggling with trust issues, it may be wise to back away from him for a little while.  If he understands your past and has given you no reason to not trust him, then he must respect and care for you a great deal - and will gladly do whatever you feel is best for you at this time.  For you to 'stop having trust issues' isn't an overnight thing.  It takes a lot of time, patience and love from the people around you.  If your boyfriend is still hurt with your difficulty on trusting him (even though he knows about your father), that's not YOUR fault.  If he's a good guy, he'll give you the space and time you need.
My biggest suggestion and advice is that you strive to grow closer to God right now.  Seek God's will for your life.  Trust HIM with your life.  He loves you more than any man ever could.  And He cares for you more than your father or boyfriend ever will.  If you still feel insecure about who to trust and if someone you grow close to will soon just decide they don't like you anymore and not want to be around you, you need to bury yourself even more in God's Word.  You will discover people like this.  People will come and go.  It's a part of life.  It's a part of growing up.  But I promise you that the ache and pain of betrayal and denial won't be as sharp if you remember that God is within arm's length from you.
Stay grounded in His Word.  Stay focused on Him.  Rejoice in His love for you.  Trust that He will never leave you...

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'Have I not commanded you?  Be strong and of good courage!  Be not afraid, neither be dismayed.  For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.'
- Joshua 1:9

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'And they that know Your Name will put their trust in You; for You, LORD, have not forsaken them that seek You.'
- Psalm 9:10

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