If you're looking for a sign to not kill yourself...

...this is it.

Suicide rates have risen considerably over the past ten years.  People die more by committing suicide than in car accidents.  Most of us may think that these are mainly teenagers, but statistics have risen to middle-aged people as well.  It’s estimated that 38, 364 people killed themselves in 2013 alone.  An average of 101 individuals per day (one per 14 minutes) will die by suicide.

I think that this is something that is over-looked in society.  It’s an everyday occurrence that we either choose to ignore or have absolutely no idea about.  

A Twitter follower recently messaged me to ‘say goodbye’ because he was contemplating killing himself.  While I think a lot of people on social networks make up stories just to get attention and sympathy, I honestly think this guy was serious.  And I know a lot of others are too.

As someone once said: ‘When one person commits suicide, others begin to see it as an option.  ‘If they did it, so can I’ is their mindset.’  

Reasons for suicides can vary according to different people.  The ones I’ve talked to have given me ‘reasons’ such as:

  • I just hate my life
  • No one cares for me
  • God has no interest in me
  • I fail at everything
  • There’s nothing special about me

And all these statements are usually followed with ‘It’s okay.  No one will miss me.’

I don’t claim to be an expert in this whatsoever.  And I’ve never experienced suicidal thoughts so some of you may be wondering ‘Well then how do you know what it’s like?’  Or even you yourself may be contemplating suicide and telling yourself ‘Raquel has no idea what she’s talking about.’

Well, maybe I don’t.  Maybe I don’t know what it’s like to want to kill myself.  Maybe I don’t know what it’s like to not want to live anymore because ‘life is just too hard’.  But I can tell you what the complete opposite of that spectrum is.

It’s this:

Life is precious.  Life is a gift.  Life is something God chose to gave you.  Why?  I have no idea.  I ask myself why He lets me breathe every single day.  It’s a question without an answer, really.  

I know that nothing I say can make you feel better.  Or change your mind.  Or make you realize your life has a purpose.  I don’t know you.  I don’t know what you’ve been through.  Or why you’re contemplating this action to take your own life.  And I won’t pretend that I do.  I know that’s something nobody likes - when a person says ‘I know what you’re feeling.  I know what you’re going through’.  It really is a lie, because no one can understand.  Everyone’s situation is unique and different.  And I’m sorry it is.  If I could, I would want to experience everything you have just so I could be able to relate and be able to help you through it.  But I can’t.  And no, I’m not trying to ‘push’ religion on you or just ramble on cliche things about God that I’m sure you’ve already heard.  All I can do is tell you the truth of what I know and believe with all my heart.  You may ask ‘Well what does God know about death and suicide?’  A lot, actually.  Because He killed His own Son.  For us.  (Can you imagine killing your own child for people who hated you?  I think that’s the biggest act of love ever.)

God created you in His own image.  And His own breath gives you life.  His hands shaped you and made you.  He formed every part of you.  Every little detail of your body is His own design.  You are wonderfully made.  No matter what others think about you, you are perfect in His eyes.  You are God’s own workmanship.  While you were still hidden from this world inside your mother’s womb, God knew you.  He knows all your anxious thoughts, every hurt you feel, every painful experience in your life.  And He thinks such precious things about you.  More thoughts than the sand on the beaches.  He wouldn’t have given you this life if He didn’t know you were strong enough to live it.  And when you think you’re not strong enough, He is - because His power is perfected in weakness.  God is always with you.  You can’t live life on your own.  It’s not by your might or power, but by His.  He cares for you.  He protects the children He loves.  No, life isn’t perfect.  It’s rough.  But instead of questioning God why He isn’t making things smooth for you, ask Him why He’s choosing to let you breathe right in this moment.  And I promise you, His answer is this:  

‘I know the plans that I have for you.  Plans to prosper you and not to harm you.  Plans to give you a future and a hope.  Call to me, pray to me, and I will listen to you.  Seek Me and search for me with all your heart and you will find Me.’

And I am very sure of this - that He who started this beautiful work in you, will perfect and complete it.  Your life is precious in His sight.  And not only His, but those around you.  You may think that no one will miss you.  But I promise you, they will.  Your parents will be devastated, your siblings will cry for weeks, people at your school will go solemnly about their business knowing that their classmate is gone.  A suicide makes a domino effect.  You’re not just thinking of hurting yourself.  You’re thinking of hurting others.

Please, please don’t consider killing yourself as an option.  If you need help, there ARE people who want to help you.  (Click HERE to contact someone right now).  And if you ever need someone to just talk to or pray for you, feel free to email me any time: itisjustraquel[at]gmail[dot]com

And even if this whole post didn’t make you stop and think, I hope and pray that someone or something else will.

{The photo featured in this post is the result of a project by Carlos Navarro called ‘The Suicide Sign’.  The people holding the cardboard sign are all recording artists who have joined in suicide awareness.  And the sign says: 'Suicide does not end the chances of life getting worse.  Suicide eliminates the possibility of it ever getting better.'}


(Genesis 1:27, Job 33:4, Psalm 100:3, 1 Corinthians 12:9, Jeremiah 29:11, Psalm 139, Psalm 41:1, Joshua 1:9, Zechariah 4:6, Philippians 1:6)

1 comment:

  1. This is great, Raquel. I pray that God will guide the people who need to read this, to this post.