Trust vs. Desperation - which one are you? | guest post

Wait on God and don't be desperate.

When it comes to a relationship, you may be desperate to be in one. But when you’re desperate, you tend to miss things and not be thankful for everything you already have.

Every person who ‘has their life together’ and seems to have Godly character and a great personality, quickly becomes a ‘possibility’. But what if the person God has for you is the person you overlooked?  What if the guy/girl you think is perfect isn’t the right one for you because your person is still in the works?  Stop looking for possibilities. Wait for God to show you, and usually, God never uses big spot lights, and they won't just pop up with a sign saying, "I'm the one".  You have to wait, be patient, and let God bring you together at the right time.

If you are trying to see a relationship that isn't there and trying to ‘help’ God along by looking at all your friends that seem ready now, then you're doing it wrong. God doesn't need your help. You need His. Along the same lines, if you’re looking at every new person you meet, and asking yourself, is he/she the one? Then maybe you need to stop thinking about it so much. 
When it comes to thinking, it’s very easy to overthink.  We often do this without realizing it, and we usually don’t like to admit it either (myself included). The problem is, with overthinking, comes worry. We start to worry about this guy/girl that seem so perfect for us, they have an amazing personality, they’re really good looking, and above all, they love Jesus!! They MUST be the one, they have to be...oh, but what if they aren’t, what if I don’t get--- Stop right there. We need to slow down and take life at the pace God gives  us. If we rush right through it all, we might miss a miracle.

Instead of asking “What if” about what could happen, what would happen if you started asking “What if” about your current situation?  What if God is going to do something incredible in your life, that He could only do with you while you’re single?
What if God has an amazing plan for you to fulfill, but it can only start now, in THIS season of life? Don’t waste a second on wishing for a life that you don’t have right now.
Chances are, most of you are going to get married, and move on to that life sometime in the future. Not everyone will, but I believe God made the majority of people, for marriage.

Just be patient. Wait. (I know, I know...it’s super duper hard)  But remember that the person God has chosen for you could be the person you least expected. They could be the one who was right there the whole time, or they could be the one you have yet to meet. Trust God’s plan for your life.  You never know what adventure He has waiting for you.

My point in all this is that, when we are desperate for the next thing, the next season in life, then we will never be able to recognize that the season we are in now is already a blessing. There are so many things God has for us if we just take our time and follow His plan. 
That doesn’t mean follow His plan, while constantly looking over our shoulder to see if that special someone, or that new season of life is almost here. It means fully looking to God, keeping your eyes on Him, and taking that step of faith to wait for Him to bring the next season. Trust me, when you completely fix your eyes on Him, the next season of life will come so quickly, you’ll wonder why you didn’t trust Him to begin with.

I do want to leave you with one last thing.

-It is okay to keep your eyes open for that “special someone”, because there is a difference between keeping them open, and actively searching.
-It is okay to want to get married. I know I want to get married someday!
There is a difference between wanting to get married, and being desperate for it.
-It is okay to be attracted to someone, because there is a difference between being attracted, and assuming that they must be the one.
Guard your thoughts and keep your mind on the things above, and God will make the pieces fall into place.


The opposite of desperation is Faith and Trust,
Faith and Trust, in someone greater than you.


Hiya!  I'm Cody.  I'm a messed up, hurt, and saved by grace individual.  My heart has been broken, crushed and renewed by Jesus.  I'm a musician, a huge lover of music, breakfast and basically food in general.  I love my family and friends.  And my hobby is sound design for visual media.
Born and raised in Portland, Oregon, my dream is to touch lives for Jesus through my passion for music.


  1. Good observations! I think this is something a lot of people need to hear. God has a work for each one of us *today.* If we focus too much on our anxieties for tomorrow we will miss the great opportunities the Lord has for us now.

  2. Thank you so much for writing this, it really spoke to me.

  3. I really needed to hear this right now. This was a wonderful article, thanks to Cody for writing it and to you, Raquel, for hosting it. :)