2.07.2014

Self-Esteem Vs. Self-Confidence



I’m going to be rather blunt and just say that I am so tired of girls thinking they aren’t beautiful.  And seeking attention by complaining about their looks.

For starters, it makes me mad that this world is brain-washing girls to think that without full lips, big boobs, a toned butt, and makeup, we aren’t as beautiful as we could be.

And secondly, it makes me sad to see that girls are actually starting to believe these lies.

You don’t need to hide behind a mask.  That mask can never be as beautiful as who you really are, who God created you to be.  You don’t have to be perfect.  In God’s eyes, you already are.  You belong to Him, the One who never makes mistakes.  He has made each of you unique and beautiful.  

A lot of girls struggle with knowing what would be termed as ‘prideful’ or ‘self-confident’.  There’s nothing wrong with looking in the mirror and thinking ‘I look nice today’.  That’s not prideful, unless you make it so.  If you go flaunting yourself around, worming for compliments (a lot of girls do this via posting photos on social networks), then yes, that’s prideful.  But if you simply state it to yourself and are happy with your appearance, this is not self-esteem.  This is self-confidence.  We should be confident in our skin, knowing that we are beautiful in God’s eyes.  There’s nothing wrong with thinking you’re pretty.  When someone compliments your attractiveness, accept it.  Don’t try to deny it and say ‘oh no I’m not’.  I can’t stand it when girls do this (and I know, for a fact, that it’s a turnoff to guys).  Yes, you are pretty.  You are beautiful.  Be content with this.  Be confident in it.  Be sure.

And let me clarify one thing.  There’s nothing wrong with wearing some makeup to enhance the natural beauty that is already evident, but it shouldn’t detract from it.  We need to find our identity in God, not in the way we look or dress.  When we focus on God and how He sees us, the insecurities will fade - because we are joyful in being content with how He created us.

Strive to be a godly girl.  To have a beautiful heart - by loving others.  To have beautiful hands - by serving others.  To have beautiful lips - by smiling.  

You are a daughter of the One Who clothes the beautiful lilies of the valley.  So how much more beautiful would He make His daughter than a flower of nature?

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‘Charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.’
- Proverbs 31:30

12 comments:

  1. Thank-you for posting this, Raquel. Totally needed to read that last sentence, as well as the verse below it. It's one of my favorite verses of all time. :)

    Take care, and hope you have a great day!

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    1. You're very welcome. Praise God! I'm blessed to know that it encouraged you.

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  2. yes, yes!! so, so true. I love this. it really is sad how girls-- and people, more generally -- view themselves, because of what the media tells them. I want ever girl to know that it is what's inside that truly makes them beautiful.

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    1. Thank you for reading it and commenting! I pray you and many others were blessed by this post.

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  3. This post was beautiful :) I've been working on simply being confident with who I am lately. I've been learning to smile at myself each morning while I'm getting ready, as a way to tell myself that God made me beautiful just the way I am. That has also helped me to be in a better mood for the day and be so much more loving to people. Thanks for this post, Raquel :) This has been on my heart lately, and I'm so glad I could hear this from someone else's point of view.

    Molly Marie
    mollyslittlecorner.blogspot.com

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    1. Praise the LORD! Yes! Remember you are beautiful because HE made you. And He smiles down on you every day.
      Thank you for being a reader and fan of the blog! And for leaving comments:)

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  4. Beautiful post Raquel!! Your words were so very true and spoke to me. I love your blog so much- it always leaves me feeling better about myself. Thanks for posting about this!!!

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    1. Your comment made my day <3 Thank you so much! And praise God! I always love knowing that He touched someone through my writings. You're very welcome.

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  5. Thank you for this post!!!

    I have a hard time knowing the fine line between confidence and pride. This post helped me understand that better.

    I hope you have a great day in the Lord!

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    1. Yay! Glad to hear it! That's one thing I was really hoping girls would take away from this post. Praise the LORD!
      Hope you have a great day too! Thanks for being a reader and leaving such sweet comments:)

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  6. This is so true. Thank you for the reminder, Raquel. <3

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