5 Tips On Writing Letters To Your Future Husband

This is somewhat of a "repost" of an article I wrote about a year or so ago in answer to a question I had received from a reader: 

"Can you give me some tips on writing to my future husband?"

First of all, I've heard of people "not agreeing" on indulging in writing to your future spouse because it can be igniting a hope in you that God may not have planned for your life.  Which is true.  None of us know for sure if we are going to get married or not.  But just because we don't, doesn't mean we shouldn't write a collection of thoughts to him/her.  You may not get married till your 78!  Or you may get married next year.

I've heard a testimony of a lady who wrote letters to her future husband when she was about fourteen-years old.  As she got older, she thought how silly it was that she had written them, since she didn't know if she'd ever get married or not.  So she threw them away.  A few years later, she met her now-husband and after they had gotten married, she told him about the "silly" letters and he wished so much that she had kept them!  Kinda sad, huh?  So honestly, I guess it's just up to you and your personal convictions.  Pray about it.  Talk to your parents.  It may not be the wisest course of action at this time, but perhaps something to keep in mind for the future.

If you decide that it's a go, here are some tips that I've learned over the years since I've been writing him.  I started when I was about 13...and yes, I admit, the first few were pretty silly and naive.  But as I grew older, as I learned more about the world, about men, about hopes and dreams, and about pain, my letters took on a more mature ring to them.  I already have a box full of letters and am now on my second journal to my man.  And here are a few ideas that I've found useful in writing to him.

1. Things You're Looking Forward To
One of the most enjoyable things to write to my husband are things that I'm looking forward to doing with him.  It can be anything from fulfilling bucket list wishes, to dancing in the rain, to watching movies together.  And don't worry about being cheesy, girls.  Plus it's a good way of having date ideas.

2. Hopes and Dreams
Talk to him about things you'd like to accomplish together.  Goals in life that you can only do with two people.  This can also fall under the previous category, but don't be afraid to talk about more 'serious' topics.  You two will be talking about them all your life.

3. Prayers
Praying for your future and your future husband is one of the most amazing things you can pray about. Pray for him now.  Pray for his spiritual growth, his job, his school, his family.  Pray for when you two meet.  Pray for your relationship.  Pray for your marriage.  Pray for your children.  And writing down these prayers and recording them to be able to read in years to come is something really precious. (You can read my post on prayer request suggestions for your future husband HERE.)

4. Things You Love About Him
So no, you may not know who your man is right now.  You may not know everything about him yet.  But write down things you know you'll love about.  His love for God.  His love for you.  His smile.  His eyes.  Tell him that you love being his.

5. Verses, Quotes and Songs
One thing I love doing is writing down verses from the Bible or lyrics from songs or romantic quotes in my journal to him. They're fun little sparkles to add to entries.  And it's always so fun to know that you can sing those songs to him someday.  And read those verses together.  And say those quotes directly to him.


Comment and share your favorite things to write to your future husband or any suggestions you may have!


  1. LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOOOOVE THIS!!!! I will certainly start doing this!! :D Thanks girly!!

  2. This is a really neat guide, it has some cute ideas. I've thought of writing letters to my future husband, but I like the idea of a journal like yours better. :)

    1. Honestly, keeping a journal is much easier. Doesn't take up as much space, etc., ya know?

  3. This is so true. I love it! I've been writing in a journal to my FH for about a year and I've almost filled it up. Glad to know I'm not the only one. :)

  4. Wonderful post. I wanted to add that when praying for my future husband I pray for his strong faith in God to keep him from temptations. A friend I used to have, but had turned quite ungodly, told me that a boy had kissed her so that she couldn't tease him about never kissing anyone. And it got me thinking that I should pray for my "maybe" future husband, that if ever in that circumstance he would holdfast and remain pure. Just wanted to add that. =)


    1. Awesome. Yes, I pray that for my future husband too.

  5. This is SUCH a neat idea. Although I never did this, I did alot of journaling where I wrote out my prayers for my future husband. Now that I'm in a courtship, it's very special to see how god is specifically answering those prayers. :-)

  6. Very, very cool! I love this idea!


  7. This is an interesting idea *wondering weather I should try it*.... will I be to embarrassed later...

    1. Well, just give it a go... See how you enjoy doing it for the first few times.

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  9. I remember reading this awhile ago. Still just as good for a reread of what to put in a journal! I love your blog!

  10. I went on Pinterest looking for examples of letters to my Future Husband, because I've been trying to write these letters for a while and I just wasn't pleased with how they came out. Even though I didn't know it, this is exactly what I needed! Thank you so much! I can't wait to try this out!


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