1. It’s okay to admit that you’re struggling with being content
Many people think that if you’re trusting God to bring a spouse to you, waiting patiently, trying to stay joyful, etc., then you have nothing to complain about. But trusting God is never all rainbows and roses. It’s painful. It’s hard. Don’t be afraid to admit this. And seek out encouragement from other single friends.
2. You aren’t alone in your singleness
There are tons of other singles around you. Interact with each other. Encourage each other. Have fun together. Plan ‘Singles Day’ outings and go to the beach, go rock-climbing, have a Bible study.
3. Others have been where you are
We all have friends who are happily married. Some are quite a few years older than ourselves. But they’ve ALL experienced the ‘single and waiting’ stage. Ask them for advice and encouragement.
4. Think of positive aspects to being single
One of them being, you have SO much time to do things that are important to you. Things that your future partner, perhaps, may not enjoy as much as you do. You can advance your skills in certain areas, pursue hobbies, go on spontaneous trips, etc. These are all things that, if you were in a relationship, would come second to spending time with your significant other. But while single, you aren’t ‘tied down’ (for lack of a better phrase) and can enjoy life as a single person, rather than as one in a committed relationship.
5. Stay busy
I’ve known a lot of single people who don’t stay busy and when you don’t stay busy, your mind wanders, and when your mind wanders, it usually wanders to big issues in your life - either dreams, wishes, or plans. And if you’re single and wanting to mingle, your thoughts will most likely focus on your loneliness. This is NOT good for you - physically or emotionally. So STAY BUSY. Get a job, hang out with friends, start a blog. Keep your schedule full and busy. And one super positive aspect to staying busy too, is that you learn to love your life because it’s full of things you love and enjoy doing (this goes hand in hand with point number 4).
6. Be happy for couples
Yes, so it can be really super hard sometimes to be genuinely happy for some friends who are together and lovey-dovey and in that oh-we’re-so-in-love stage that, to you, can be kind of disgusting. But when we are joyful for someone else’s happiness, it brings US joy too. And anyway, wouldn’t you want someone to be happy for YOU instead of harboring feelings of jealousy towards what God has blessed you with?
7. Work on your relationship with God
While you’re single, you have the opportunity to further your education, your job, but most importantly, your relationship with God. The most important relationship you’ll ever have. Even more important than marriage. And if you never do get married, if a spouse isn’t in God’s plans for your life, the time invested in your love story with Jesus will never get old, it will never end, it will never disappoint. A boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t going to make your life perfect. A spouse isn’t going to fulfill every single desire you have. But God can and does. And if you have Him, you have everything you need.
These aren't the only things you should remember while you are single. I'm sure there are many more that can be added to this little list, but these are the top few that I, personally, have come to learn during my single years and I hope they encourage and motivate you. Leave a comment and let me know some other ones that you would suggest singles remember!
‘Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am.’
- Philippians 4:11