Friends only for a time

We have all suffered from the hardship of losing a friend.  Sometimes there’s a reason you had to part ways.  Other times, you have no idea how someone who used to be so close to you could suddenly turn and leave your life without a second glance.

‘Why?’ you ask yourself.  ‘Why did this happen?’

All too often that question goes unanswered.  But honestly, there can be a few different reasons why.

One of them being that God obviously has different plans for both of you.  Where He is taking you, the other person can’t go.  They would only hinder you from the walk that He is calling you to.  When God has someone (or something) exit from your life, it’s because they have already fulfilled their purpose for why He had placed them in your life in the first place.  And as hard as it may be, you need to let them go.

When you trust that God has greater things planned for you, the disappointments in life won’t seem as harsh.  His plans for us are only for our good and His glory.  And if that means tearing away something from us - especially something we love - then, by faith, we must accept that His purposes are being accomplished even through our pain.

For the rest of our lives, people will come and go.  It’s a part of the life cycle, and can’t really be avoided.  (If you have a friend who you’ve known for a long time and are still close to, don’t take them for granted! They are hard to come by.)  But when one person leaves, don’t let that discourage you and make you afraid to ‘start over’ and make a new friend.  As humans, we are created with a need for friendships.  And we will always crave for affection and for people to understand and love us.  But just because one person has failed to give it to us - or because they have stopped doing so - doesn’t mean we should give up on people altogether.  Remember to reach out to others.  You never know who may be going through a similar situation and maybe you’re just the person they need - to reach out to them and be able to relate to what they’re experiencing.

But most importantly, remember your true and Ultimate Friend.  The Friend who will never leave or forsake you.  The Friend who is constantly aware of all you’re going through.  The Friend who loves you enough to die for you.  He is one who will never turn away from you or leave you in the dark.  Trust His guiding hand and forever rest in the assurance that your relationship with Him is eternal.  Let the times that earthly friends leave you, be times in which you learn to lean more into your friendship with your heavenly Friend.


  1. One of my best friends just left me, and it's been really, really hard. Thank you for the encouraging reminder to trust God, even when things don't make sense. <3

  2. I appreciate these words, Raquel. They are very true, and I can really relate. I have never read your blog before. I just saw your title on Cora B.'s sidebar and wanted to read something on that topic. Actually this is not Hristiyan writing. This is his mom, but I don't have a URL (because I don't do Facebook), so I couldn't leave this comment without "being Hristiyan". : ) With Cora's blog I can just leave a comment as "anonymous".

  3. This was so timing as I just lost two dear friends. Thank you for this reminded <3