I ran across a title somewhere a while back that was similar to this. I think it was a tumblr conversation or something. Anyway, the phrase stuck with me and I was rolling it around today. Now here I am, trying to gather my thoughts and figure out just how to write this post.
So many girls are taken with the idea of ‘if he’s a Christian guy, then that’s all that matters’. But what of all the other people who call themselves Christians and only live it on the outside? How do you know that this "Christian guy" isn’t just another one of those professing believers? How do you know if he’s a true man of God? And what exactly IS a man of God?
Well, first of all, there’s a huge difference between the two.
A guy who says he’s a Christian can also say a lot of other things. Such as ‘I love you’ or ‘I would never compromise your purity’. Saying these are easy, but living them is a totally different matter. A man of God is one who is living for God because He lives in him. He is only able to pursue a woman’s heart because God has already captured his. A man of God is devoted to the LORD and His commands. And thus, everything he says, he is ready and willing to live out. He may very well say ‘I love you’ too, but you will know he means it because he will love God more than he loves you. And by being a man of God, he would truly be able to understand the meaning of love, because he knows the love with which the Father has loved him (1 John 3:16). And a man who is faithful to God will be faithful to you.
Secondly, a guy who says he’s a Christian won’t be able to withstand the two-edged sword that you wield when you confront him (Proverbs 27:17).
As a man, he should be willing to be challenged. He should be able to defend his beliefs and his faith. And most importantly, he should be able to encourage you in your walk with Christ. A Christian guy could very easily text you Bible verses, go to church with you on Sundays, seem very touched by the sermon and worship music, but a man of God will live out those verses, will love sermons and music all throughout the week. He will have a firm and rooted knowledge of God’s Word, and know that his very existence on this earth is to bring glory to God. He will love to be challenged and encouraged by you in his walk with the LORD, and likewise, his faith will challenge and encourage - not only you, but everyone around him. The fruit of the Spirit should be evident in his life. Not just since you met him, but before that. And it should be continually seen, as you get to know him.
Thirdly, a guy who says he’s a Christian may make you feel beautiful and valued and safe, but a man of God will see to it that you know your value to God AND to him.
A man of God will guard you - not only physically, but emotionally and spiritually. He will strive to show you your worth as God would have you know it. He will be attracted, not only to your outward appearance but to your heart - just as you should be to him. ‘For from the heart flow the wellsprings of life...’ (Proverbs 4:23) His duty as a man (protector) and a true believer (your brother in Christ) should be to push you closer to the LORD - in all things. Whether that be by guarding you, encouraging you, challenging you, admonishing you, or praying for you. These are all qualities and characteristics of a man who is not ashamed of his faith and who lives it out, rather than just states that he "is a Christian". And through them all, he will give glory to God.
Lastly, a guy who says he’s a Christian may be daunted and annoyed by your high standards, but a man of God will respect and admire them because he sees that you won’t settle for less.
Be done with the players and the "Christian" boys. Wait for a godly man to come forward and accept the challenge of winning your heart because he knows he can truly care for it with God’s help. As a daughter of God, only a man of God should be fit to meet your standards. A woman with high standards attracts the men who have high standards for themselves. And when two people don’t settle for less, and have God as the center of their respective lives, their two lives together can shine God’s light.
Don’t settle for the "Christian guy". Long for and work at being a woman that the man of God would be attracted to.
‘Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness with lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God.’
- 2 Corinthians 6:14-16