10.30.2014

The Romance Genre


I was talking to a good friend of mine recently about the romance genre - of movies or books.  He expressed his distaste of them.  Why?  "Because it gives girls a false picture of guys who will satisfy and meet their needs."

I partially agreed with him.

Yes, love stories via movies and books CAN give girls a false picture of guys.  But if a girl is strong in her belief system and remembers that these are just made up stories, I don't think there's necessarily any 'harm' in watching and reading them.

I think people are quick to group individuals into categories.  Guys are quick to group girls into a category of 'having unreal expectations of men' because of the books they read or the movies they watch.  I don't like all the people on social media who are like 'oh where's my ____' just as much as the next person.  Can't stand it, honestly.  Where's your Mr. Darcy?  Where's your Prince Charming?  Where's your Augustus Waters?  In books, that's where.  Sorry, girls, but they ain't real.

Sure, there can be certain characteristics and personality traits that I can like in a fictional male character.  And I enjoy a night in of watching The Vow or reading The Fault In Our Stars.  Any guy I meet, though, I don't just automatically compare to my favorite hero in a book or movie.  I compare him to Christ.  And if his lifestyle and personality doesn't align to His, then I don't give a rip about a character from a book or movie.

Oh and just a side note: most of my favorite heroes are book characters.  Aren't those just better anyway?


12 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for this! I agree. I am tired of all the "Where's my Mr. Darcy" posts, but I still love reading Jane Austen's books. I just enjoy a good romantic movie, and like you said, it doesn't mean I compare every guy I meet to guys in books.

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  2. TRUTH. We definitely cannot set our standards on anything but Christ. However, even with realistic expectations, I feel I have to be somewhat careful with romance. I enjoy a bit of it here or there but try not to get too immersed. I find that after I've consumed romance fiction of any sort, I tend to go through a period of being a bit sappier, more sentimental, and consumed with the whole idea of romance. Maybe that's just me.

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    1. That's great that you know you have to be careful with romance. Everyone is different, has different temptations, has different struggles. Thank you for your comment!

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  3. Thanks for posting this!!!
    I totally agree.

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  4. This is so right on. I also think that Hollywood gives men unrealistic expectations of women, as well. So it's definitely a two way street. And comparing someone to the guidance that Jesus gives us is always the best, I totally agree. That's the only way it will lead to a good, healthy and forever relationship

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    1. Thank you so much. And yes, absolutely agree with you. Thank you for your comment!

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  5. Spot on! Yes, I don't compare them with "characters" because that is not going to help me in the relationship, but I do rather compare them to the heart of Christ.

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  6. I totally agree! I like how concisely you explained this....I've attempted to explain my thoughts on this subject, but they usually end up too prolix! I really love reading your blog.

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  7. Hey I love Jane Austen's books, but who the heck would marry someone from 1812? Sarcastically speaking:)

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