I was talking to a good friend of mine recently about the romance genre - of movies or books. He expressed his distaste of them. Why? "Because it gives girls a false picture of guys who will satisfy and meet their needs."
I partially agreed with him.
Yes, love stories via movies and books CAN give girls a false picture of guys. But if a girl is strong in her belief system and remembers that these are just made up stories, I don't think there's necessarily any 'harm' in watching and reading them.
I think people are quick to group individuals into categories. Guys are quick to group girls into a category of 'having unreal expectations of men' because of the books they read or the movies they watch. I don't like all the people on social media who are like 'oh where's my ____' just as much as the next person. Can't stand it, honestly. Where's your Mr. Darcy? Where's your Prince Charming? Where's your Augustus Waters? In books, that's where. Sorry, girls, but they ain't real.
Sure, there can be certain characteristics and personality traits that I can like in a fictional male character. And I enjoy a night in of watching The Vow or reading The Fault In Our Stars. Any guy I meet, though, I don't just automatically compare to my favorite hero in a book or movie. I compare him to Christ. And if his lifestyle and personality doesn't align to His, then I don't give a rip about a character from a book or movie.
Oh and just a side note: most of my favorite heroes are book characters. Aren't those just better anyway?