Even from a very young age, something my Dad always told me was, 'No one is going to know what you're feeling unless you tell them'.
Growing up, this reality has rang true in countless circumstances. And it's a fact that I take to heart.
Below are five things about honesty that I have realized and learned to appreciate...
1) Honesty is a beautiful thing.
I don't know about you but I don't like getting lied to. Or when someone doesn't want to tell me the truth because they're 'afraid it might hurt me'. If I know you're confronting me about something out of love, I will always accept your admonitions. I may not like what you have to say, but if I get upset, that's on me. Proverbs 27:6 says, "Faithful are the wounds of a friend..." Christ Himself spoke truth regardless of if it was easy on the ears or not. In fact, the truth should make us uncomfortable because it shows us how in need we are of Him. The other day, a good friend of mine told me that I should pray that God would help me show more grace to others. It fascinated me that my friend told me this because a) I know I can be harsh and judgmental sometimes but no one has ever confronted me about it, and b) my friend was telling me out of love. I didn't feel any sort of animosity against them. I was appreciative.
2) Honesty has become very rare in today's society.
Nobody wants to be judged. We're all about 'trying to make everyone feel good about themselves'. But the only times I've seen people confronting other individuals is when they're putting them down, instead of confronting them out of love and for concern on the person's lifestyle.
3) Honesty will never grow old.
Seriously, good things don't go out of style.
4) Honesty is helpful.
People are all about ‘dropping hints’ and being ‘discreet’. There are times for that, I guess. But not about important things, okay? There’s a difference between dropping hints for someone to guess a surprise, or dropping hints because you’re trying to ‘tell’ someone you’re interested in them.
I’ve seen a few things on Facebook, or heard them in person, where people suggest to ‘drop hints’. Especially girls. Many girls I know encourage each other in this. “If you like a guy, you should drop him a hint.” Uh, no. For two reasons. First of all, if you’re old enough to even understand what it means to be attracted and interested in a guy, then you’re old enough to speak your mind and use your mouth to be honest and say what you want to say. (cue the song by Sara Bareilles) Secondly, guys don’t always get the hints. Actually, 99% of the time they don’t. Why? Because they are very honest, straight-to-the-point creatures. (Or at least most of them are.) They’re honest. They expect others to be honest with them.
But it shouldn’t just be limited to genders. We all need to learn to be honest. Dropping hints isn’t going to help anything. How is giving a hint any easier than just coming straight out and saying what needs to be said? What does giving a hint do that face to face honesty can’t or doesn’t?
Being honest is taking a stand for what you believe, think or feel and not being afraid of how people may perceive or criticize you. You should be sensitive to others' opinions, yes. Just as they should be to yours. But boldness is part of honesty. And both are commands from God. He calls us to be bold (Ephesians 3:11-12), and He calls us to tell the truth (Ephesians 4:25). He also gives us the power to do both.
"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, of love, and of a sound mind."
2 Timothy 1:7
If people were honest, life would be simpler. And I’m not talking about the honest sort that say blunt, sometimes hurtful things. But just plain honesty in any and every little thing. Friendships. Romance. Work. Talking about life. Yourself.
What are your thoughts on this? What are some other facts about honesty that you have seen proven in your life?