12 Ways To Change Your Life [For the Better]

It's that feeling of a desire to do something different.  The little voice in your head that keeps you up late at night, thinking of the endless possibilities.  The first thought in the morning as you get out of bed, wondering how you can make this day different.  Or if it won't ever change.

We all have dreams and goals.  Some seem impossible to achieve.  Others are just fantasies that we would never attempt at making a reality.

All change starts with an idea, a thought, a passion that is begun in your head.  By you alone.  And I know, without a doubt, that you have potential, and you're big enough to make something happen.
Here are 18 personal tips that can help you start living today...

1.  Begin
One of the most daunting places you can be in is at the start of something new.  Many of us have tried and failed, so we are afraid to try again.  Some of us have started, but lost motivation.  What do I say to this?  Well, Ijeoma Umebinyuo said it best.

'Start now.
Start where you are.
Start with fear.
Start with pain.
Start with doubt.
Start with hands shaking.
Start with voice trembling, but start.
Start and don't stop.
Start where you are, with what you have.

Start with a word, then a sentence, then a paragraph.  Start with a phone call, then a breath, then a smile.  Start with a key, then a car, then an ignition.  Start with a spark. 

2.  Fresh
Clear out the clutter.  Get a rid of anything or anyone who does not bring value, happiness or meaning to your life.  This includes the old toy that you used to play with when you were five.  And the guy/girl who only texts you to flirt and never has anything meaningful to talk about.

3.  Visualize
What do you want?  Consider the steps on how to get to it.  Write a list if you have to.  Step 1, 2 & 3.

4.  Connect
Who is someone you've always admired?  Who is someone you aspire to be like?  Who is someone you wish you could sit and have lunch with?  Don't be afraid to contact them.  The least you can do is try.  And remember - they are humans too.

5.  Explore
Go somewhere you've never been before.  Visit a museum.  Go camping.  Take a road trip out of state.  Inspire yourself.

6.  Celebrate
This is a big step in your life.  Celebrate it.

7.  Focus
What are the things in your life that make you love it?  Expand on these.  Do them more often.  Is it being with friends and family?  Singing?  Writing?  Hiking?  Star-gazing?

8.  Dream
What is your dream job?  Dream house?  Dream property?  Dream pet?  Who says it always has to stay a dream?  Have you tried pursuing it?  Don't let dreams take back burner.  Work towards making them a reality.  It will take time.  Remind yourself of that.

'There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.  And there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.'

9.  Give 
It is better to give than to receive, right?  Give compliments.  Give gifts.  Give help.  Give without expecting anything in return.  

10.  Lose
Yourself - in a city, in a field, in a forest.
Others - who don't build you up.
Job - if it's one you hate, quit.
Roommate - if you like them, move out.

11.  Accept
Nothing worth having is easily acquired.  Change happens, but sometimes slowly.  Accept the fact that not all things will happen overnight.  It takes time.

12.  Live
You will never be as young as you are right now.  How are you enjoying your life?  How are you making it better?  How are you living a life that is worth leaving a legacy of?

'If we wait until we're ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives.'


  1. Raquel, these are great! I especially like #3 and #10. Visualizing a plan for how to make dreams happen is a lot different (and certainly a lot more daunting) than simply considering possibilities.

    I also know that a lot of the time I'm scared to get "lost", I'm afraid to wander and explore. But it's in those moments of exploration, detours and adventure that I find and realize the most precious, unexpected dreams.

    Thank you!!

    Dani from A Vapor in the Wind

    1. I can relate... Glad you liked this list. Thanks for commenting!

  2. Great sentiments, Raquel! However, some of them are a tad unrealistic. I'm a dreamer--I always have been. Over time, though, I've grown up and matured. I've had to re-evaluate some of my dreams in light of what is necessary and most practical. Some of my dreams were definitely not pragmatic. Sure, I have dream jobs and visions for my future. Are they attainable? Maybe, someday, but certainly not right now. I've had to take a hard look at my life and decide what was most important for the here and now. If one tries to survive off of dreams alone, they won't get very far in life.

    Not everyone has the desired and needed connections to help move them along in life. It can be operose trying to stay afloat. For many people, they do not have the luxury of simply quitting jobs that they don't like. The reality of rent, bills, and putting food on the table is enough to keep anyone in dismal jobs. I can choose to live in a fantasy world, OR, I can live in the real world and trust that God's aware of my desires and that He has great plans for my life.

    - Julie

  3. I love this post Raquel. Good job. I loved the one about not being afraid to connect with the people you admire. That is for sure one I need to work on. Again, great post.

  4. Great post! This was super encouraging! I really like the point about giving, because even when we feel like we don't have much to offer, we are still capable of giving kindness or encouragement.

    1. Thank you so much. I'm glad you were blessed by it!