God’s Sovereignty In Your Singleness

A friend of mine texted me the other day and asked “Why do you think I’m almost 23 and still single, Raquel?”  
I've also had single girls email me and ask "Why does this always happen to me?  I like a guy, we start talking, but then he leaves.  Why am I not enough??"

Gosh, how do you respond to something like that? 

First of all, I really wish I could tell you a-b-and-c of why this 'always happens to you'.  But I don't know.  I don't know God's plan for you.  

But [secondly], I do know that you are enough.  You are so much more than you even think you are.  And you're 'enough' for the perfect plan He has for you.  AND the person He has waiting for you too. - who, by the way, might just be experiencing the same feelings that you are right now.  

It's easy to think of ourselves as 'the problem'.  We're quick to blame ourselves for still being single and that we ourselves are the reason everything turns out wrong.  Even then, even when it feels like everyone is discarding you along the road, you know Who you can trust.  You know that God's timing is perfect - even though it's really, really, really hard to believe that sometimes.  And to wait.  (Honestly, the waiting part is probably the suckiest...)

If you believe that God is sovereign, you are acknowledging His sovereignty over EVERYTHING.  You can't say 'Okay, God, You're sovereign over my day-to-day activities, my meals, my friends...but not my singleness.  Cuz being single sucks and I want to have a boyfriend/girlfriend already.'  That's not how it works, peeps.  He's either sovereign over everything or nothing.  

Is God sovereign in your singleness?  Have you entrusted that part of your life to His care?  Have you given up trying to find the right one on your own and trusted that He will help you find the right one in His perfect timing?

I know it's hard.  Being single can be really difficult.  For me, it was pretty darn fabulous once I got past the pity-party stage.  Seriously.  Single life rocks.  (You're probably sneering at me right now.  I can almost see it.)  But I promise that once you give over your life - your WHOLE life - to God and trust that everything will fall into place according to HIS timeline (sorry, not yours), you'll have a whole different outlook.  On everything.  

Nothing is wrong with you.  
You are not the problem.  
You're single because you're meant to be single right now.  
And when that guy or girl comes along, you'll know.
How?  Because they won't be perfect, but they'll be perfect for you.


I Swear I Lived

Today was a laid back sort of day.

I woke up, ate a blueberry bagel, drank my jasmine tea, and did a load of laundry.

I introduced two of my sisters to one of my top 5 favorite movies (The Patriot)...and kinda went on a movie spree because we watched two episodes of Leverage after that.

And then I spent time with Jesus.  I read Hebrews 11 (a post coming soon about that).  And I prayed, and I talked to Him about what's been going on lately and how difficult life has been, but how I know that He loves me.  And that will never change.

Today I filled my car's gas tank (my car's name is Oliver, by the way), and I met two girl friends for frozen yogurt, then went shopping at Ross.  I didn't intend to buy anything, but I ended up leaving the store with a new hoodie, a new sweater, and a new shirt.

Afterwards, I talked with my pastor, took a friend home, chewed on a piece of gum, called Ryan, and drove back home.

I decided not to take a shower tonight, and instead, changed into my pajama shirt, fed my bunny, ate some meatballs, rice and green beans at 10:25 p.m. and then crawled into bed.  I finished writing a movie review for Brave, checked my email, posted a status on Facebook.

And I wished at 11:11.

I'm going to end this post and publish it, knowing that it is probably THE most random thing I've ever written on my blog (and two posts in one day?!  WHAT IS THAT??), and then close my laptop (her name is Skeeter), and be on my social medias via my phone for a while before I actually decide to fall asleep.

Today was a laid back sort of day.  I didn't do a whole lot, but I didn't do nothing either.

I breathed, I moved, I laughed, I talked.

And all that matters is that you take one day at a time.  Especially when things are rough.  Just take one day at a time.

And live.

This Is Why Girls Are Confusing

Hey to all the guys out there!

I'm sure you've all had instances in your life where you're just like 'Oh my gosh, why are girls SO confusing?!?!'

I won't deny it.
We are.
We can be.
We are sometimes very hard to understand.

Maybe you've had an argument with your sister.  Or your mom tried to explain something but it made absolutely no sense.  Or your girlfriend is just acting really weird...

Any of those sound familiar?  Even slightly?

Well, here is why girls are so confusing.

Because we are very emotional creatures.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being emotional.  You just need to learn how to control your emotions.  And for girls, this isn't always easy.  We have all these emotions and feelings and thoughts rushing through our brains and hearts - most of the time ALL AT ONCE.  So it's kind of like a tsunami of emotions waving through our entire body.  Just think on that for a second...

Because we feel more than we think.
It's true.  MOST of the time.  But sometimes, we think...and tend to OVERthink.  And that, my friends, can be very confusing.  For both parties involved.  But because we feel, more than think, we are more in tuned with the emotions and stress levels of those around us.  Try dealing with your own crap and then having ten other people's dumped on you.

Because when we think, it's very rarely about ONE thing.
Guys have the capability of thinking about one thing AT A TIME and one thing ONLY.  Girls don't.  We can be thinking about 10 different things all at once.  Pretty cool, huh?  It can be.  That's one reason why we're such great multi-taskers.  But at the same time, it's kind of annoying cuz it's like 'Okay, I need to write that email...and do a load of laundry...and charge my phone...why is my boyfriend acting like this?...my friend in New York needs to read this book...I wonder if rabbits have feelings...this pillow is super comfortable...tomorrow I'm going to a wedding...where on earth is my other shoe?'

Because we have very strong intuitions.
Some women are more 'in touch' with their senses than others.  But regardless, we all can sense things.  And try to explain WHY we don't like that person, or WHY we don't think you should go there, or WHY driving on this particular road at this particular speed is a bad idea.  I know it doesn't make sense when we say 'I don't FEEL right about it...', but just trust us.  Okay?

Because we have periods.
Okay so once a month, our uterus sheds its lining so that the eggs descend into...

Yeah, I'll stop there.


A friend of mine wrote the following and I thought it very fitting to include in this post:

'Women are the most complex creatures on earth.  They're a universe of emotions, filled with outbursts of compassion and love, desperation and rage.  They're capable of ruling nations but can be undone by the untimely death of a furry animal.  They know all the great secrets of pleasure and let few into their inner circle of trust.  They bear children and bring the strongest men to their knees.  If man was characterized by the crude god Mars, whose planet is crude and made of iron, Venus is a right representative of the woman, whose light is surpassed only by the moon, and whose temperature that of the sun.'


Originally published on Thought Catalog


44 Things I Wish I Had Been Told As A Teenager

1.  Ask yourself 'Will I still like this in 10 years?' before you lay hard-earned money down to buy something.

2.  Practice with the eyeliner, and use it minimally until you get it right.

3.  Listen to that gut reaction.

4.  God gave you a conscience for a reason.

5.  Call your grandparents - just because.

6.  Don't be passive aggressive on social media.  It's immature.

7.  Don't ever tell your parents that you hate them.

8.  You can wear a regular bra with a cross-backed shirt, but never wear a cross-backed bra with a shirt that doesn't cover it.

9.  Some people will just plain never like you.  Don't let it ruin your life.

10.  Kill people with kindness.  (The whole 'heaping coals of fire on their head' thing really does work.)

11.  Don't yell when you're angry.  You hurt more people than you will realize.

12.  You were beautiful before that guy told you.

13.  Don't let others define you or make you think they know who you are better than you know yourself.

14.  Invest money in a good car, not a fancy one.  All you need is for it to get you places.

15.  Don't let one mistake define you.  But learn from your mistakes and move on.

16.  Learn to cook.  And eat home-cooked meals.  They are literally the best.

17.  Your brother can see a crappy boy before you can.

18.  'Fun' doesn't have to include alcohol or smoking or drugs.

19.  Friday nights are 99% more fun if you stay home, have friends over to watch a movie and eat ice cream.

20.  It's only a bad day.  Not a bad life.

21.  Tell your parents 'thank you'.

22.  Learn to apologize...and to forgive.

23.  Learn to be humble.

24.  Sex does not make you mature or an adult.

25.  Treat others the way you want to be treated, including while you're driving on the freeway.

26.  Keep a journal.  Write in it as often as possible, but don't beat yourself up when you don't keep up with it.

27.  Listen to a song before watching the music video.

28.  Read a book before watching the movie its based on.

29.  Stop pretending to be someone to impress people and make them like you.

30.  You'll regret spending over $20 on a piece of clothing.

31.  I know sugar and chocolate make you break out really bad, but just eat the dang candy bar.

32.  Pray for your future husband.

33.  Ask your grandparents to tell you stories every chance you get.

34.  Learn languages.

35.  If you have a presence on social media, expect to get haters.  It's just how it works.

36.  Write thank you notes for everything.

37.  If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one.

38.  Travel.  As often as you possibly can.

39.  Get a job that you will enjoy doing.  Don't accept one that you'll be complaining about all the time.

40.  You can't fix people.  You can only love them through their difficult-ness.

41.  You can't make people understand what you're saying.  You can only hope they listen, not just hear you.

42.  There will be people in your life who change drastically - for the better and for the worse.  Learn about them.  And don't ever forget to love them through their stupidity.

43.  Ask God to show you the plans He has for your life, but don't expect Him to drop a How To manual from the sky.  Go out and search for opportunities.  Go until He shuts the door.  Run until He holds you back.  Always be in tune to His voice.

44.  Life really is beautiful.  It really is.  Sometimes you need to look for the beauty, but I guarantee it is always, always, always there.


Everyday Blessings // 36

>> traveling to and from Texas safely
>> listening to Keith Urban in Texas
>> getting to volunteer at Gospel For Asia’s campus in Texas
>> making a new friend
>> slowly starting to come out of my writer’s block
>> Fig bars
>> unexpectedly getting to speak Spanish with someone
>> reuniting with someone my heart loves after not seeing them for over a week
>> being accepted
>> progress on my book
>> mentorship
>> progress for my trip to Peru
>> playing/singing Touch The Sky by Hillsong in an incredible acoustic library
>> movie nights with girls who I’d never met until a few days ago, and having a blast
>> mint chocolate chip ice cream
>> beautiful sunsets (autumn is just a breath away…)
>> being asked for forgiveness by a complete stranger
>> mangos
>> hammocks
>> painting my nails black with a glitter coat on top
>> house-sitting for two weeks
>> ALMOST legging and sweater weather


How has your August been so far?  What are you most looking forward to in September?  Any special farewell-summer-hello-autumn plans?