Do Hard Relationships Just NOT Work Out?

So many people say that hard relationships just don't work out.

Well, I disagree.

Because if you pick the right person, sure it will be hard (I promise you that), but it can - and will - work out because you BOTH are making an effort to work through things TOGETHER.

That's what relationships are all about.  Doing things together.  Learning to be selfless.  Learning about each other.  Learning how to complement one another.

If you choose to be with someone who has a good heart, good intentions, and is willing to labor through whatever hardships life throws your way, you're off to a good start.

And after choosing (yes, because being with someone is a choice that you make) to be with them, you deal with both of your problems - whether that be past issues, current dramas, personal struggles, different personalities, etc.  Those are all things that should be considered before entering into a relationship, but...that's another blog post.

The problem with a lot of people nowadays is that if you have the mentality that 'Oops, that went wrong!' and don't continually pursue MAKING IT WORK.  If you thought like that all the time, you could miss your best friend.  You could miss your other half.  You could miss the love of a lifetime.  All because you think that certain relationships just don't work out because they're 'too hard'.

"The things that people in love do to each other they remember, and if they stay together it's not because they forget, it's because they forgive."
- Indecent Proposal

And to everyone who likes twisting my words, I am NOT saying that two people who try to make it work WILL end up together 100% of the time.  Sometimes, it's just not meant to be.  But I'm speaking to the ones in relationships who hit little bumps in the road and think 'Oh screw this, it's not working out'.  No.  It's not working out because you're choosing to let the mentality that relationships are all about romance and love determine your outlook on your significant other.  They aren't perfect.  You aren't either.  So your relationship isn't going to be perfect.  Learn to sideswipe the blows and work through things.  Together.  Because certain relationships don't work out, sure.

But some do. 

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