4.16.2016

Letting Go Or Loving Less


You broke up with someone and now you're with someone else?  Well that was fast.  Maybe too fast.  Did you really truly care for person #1 or was it all just a facade?

"Feelings aren't immoral," a friend once said.  "Just because you felt something for one person doesn't mean that when you move on and have affections for another, that the first relationship was a fake."

I have learned something throughout my time with people.  Family, friends, individuals.  Sometimes, you need to let them go.  But that doesn't mean you love them any less.

It means that you give yourself the freedom to move on from a relationship that was either not healthy or a love that wasn't reciprocated.

I think part of growing up is learning the difference between someone who wants you and someone who would do anything to keep you.  There's a vast distinction between the two.  And it's up to you to figure out who is who in your life.

Again, letting go doesn't mean you love them any less.  Sometimes it means the opposite.
Sometimes you love them so much that you know the best answer for both of you is time and space.
And that's okay too.
Too often we get caught up in trying to make things work, to make relationships work, to feel that connection, when in reality, maybe it's not supposed to exist.
Maybe not for right now.
Maybe not ever.

I don't have the answer to your "Why?" plea, but just know that you're not the only one having to make decisions and deciding to let certain ones go.  I've had to.  And I probably will have to many more times in the future.  It sucks to think about but I guess that's life.
We love, we learn, we let go, we move on.

Don't ever love less though.  Don't ever gauge your affection for someone on your past experiences.
Every individual is different, but everyone deserves the same amount of love. 

4.06.2016

4 Important Things To Remember When Your Life Is A Mess


1)  You aren't a failure.
You have goals, you have dreams, and you haven't achieved any of them.  This does not mean you never will.  Or that you're a failure.  It's easy to get frustrated with ourselves for not succeeding, but hey, circumstances have you where you're at right now and that's nobody's fault.  It's just life.  And there's a reason behind it.  I promise.  The fact that you're moving towards your goals, though, is proof that you're not letting those circumstances completely stop you.  They're just a temporary roadblock right now.  You'll find your way over - or around - them.  You're weeding out the ways that will and won't work in you reaching your dreams.  And you're awesome for doing that.

2)  You're growing and learning through this time.
Whether you realize it or not, you're storing valuable information and learning many lessons through this crappy time.  It's profitable, it's life-altering, it's good.  Life isn't a movie.  It's not perfect like some people portray it as.  But one day, you'll look back and realize just how good it was.

3)  You're not in this alone.
Nobody knows what they're doing.  If someone says they do, they're lying, cuz I'm pretty sure they haven't lived through life and somehow started all over again with a brain full of wisdom.

4)  This isn't the end.
I don't know what I would do if I didn't believe in a loving and sovereign heavenly Father who was looking over me - and who has already written my life story.  I would be a mess - worse than I already am;)  But I'm His mess.  He's doing all kinds of crazy stuff in my life and in my heart and it's a beautiful mess.  He's changing things around, taking things away, giving me new passions and desires, and guiding me along to wherever it is He wants me to go!  What an exciting thought.  This isn't the end.  It's not the end until He says it is and so far, I've survived my worst days just fine.  I got this.  You got this.  God's got this.