4.16.2016

Letting Go Or Loving Less


You broke up with someone and now you're with someone else?  Well that was fast.  Maybe too fast.  Did you really truly care for person #1 or was it all just a facade?

"Feelings aren't immoral," a friend once said.  "Just because you felt something for one person doesn't mean that when you move on and have affections for another, that the first relationship was a fake."

I have learned something throughout my time with people.  Family, friends, individuals.  Sometimes, you need to let them go.  But that doesn't mean you love them any less.

It means that you give yourself the freedom to move on from a relationship that was either not healthy or a love that wasn't reciprocated.

I think part of growing up is learning the difference between someone who wants you and someone who would do anything to keep you.  There's a vast distinction between the two.  And it's up to you to figure out who is who in your life.

Again, letting go doesn't mean you love them any less.  Sometimes it means the opposite.
Sometimes you love them so much that you know the best answer for both of you is time and space.
And that's okay too.
Too often we get caught up in trying to make things work, to make relationships work, to feel that connection, when in reality, maybe it's not supposed to exist.
Maybe not for right now.
Maybe not ever.

I don't have the answer to your "Why?" plea, but just know that you're not the only one having to make decisions and deciding to let certain ones go.  I've had to.  And I probably will have to many more times in the future.  It sucks to think about but I guess that's life.
We love, we learn, we let go, we move on.

Don't ever love less though.  Don't ever gauge your affection for someone on your past experiences.
Every individual is different, but everyone deserves the same amount of love. 

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