Allow Yourself

Yes, this world needs to be less selfish.  But there's a fine line between selflessness and simply considering your own needs and deciding what's healthiest for you.
And hopefully this little blog post will be your wake up call to that.
Not me giving you permission, but reminding you to allow yourself certain things...

Allow yourself to leave any place you don't like, any job you don't enjoy, anything you aren't passionate about.  Allow yourself to not just think about leaving, but actually pack up your bags and start over somewhere new.  Somewhere fresh.  Somewhere with more vision.  Just because people think you're crazy for "giving it up" or "not being happy with what you have" doesn't mean you can't decide what's right for yourself.  Allow yourself to search for something that makes you excited about waking up tomorrow.

Allow yourself to change direction.  We can sometimes associate this with giving up or not working through something but in reality, leaving something and completely changing direction can be the biggest key to discovering who you are and/or getting out of being stuck in the same place for so long.  Sometimes it's the best thing you can do for yourself.

Allow yourself to not settle for the complacent, non-visionary, non-passionate friends.  Instead, surround your life with like-minded individuals.  Find humans who have your same mindset of taking over the world, looking for the good in others, and changing how we perceive this culture.  And bask in those friendships.

Allow yourself to think outside the box, be different, not be normal, regardless of what others think of you.  Set incredible goals for yourself, get that tattoo or piercing you've been wanting, change up your hair style, apply for that world-traveling job, write a book...

Allow yourself to end that relationship with the person you love simply because they aren't treating you the way you deserve to be treated.  That's really the "best" reason to break up with someone.  And even if your emotions and heart scream against letting them go, your brain and your soul know that you are worthy of so much better.  Allow yourself to care enough for YOU that walking away from an unhealthy relationship will give you peace because you know that it added more pain than happiness to your life.  Allow yourself to walk away when you're tried over and over again to make it work.  Remind yourself that you can't change it.

Allow yourself to let God completely reshape your life.  Not "let" Him in the sense of "giving Him permission", because oh honey, He doesn't need it.  But rather consenting to His plan, His pen, His design.  Cooperate to His gentle touch of guidance, His never-ending forgiveness and grace, and know with absolute certainty that it's the best decision you will ever make.  For He never makes mistakes.  And His plans for us are always good.


  1. Such sweet, inspiring, and encouraging words, Raquel! Thanks, girl. <3

    - Amanda @ Scattered Journal Pages

    1. I'm glad you were blessed by it. You're welcome, girl. Thank YOU!

  2. That second one can be the hardest for me - I feel like if I ever change direction that I am "giving up." Someone recently described the concept of the gestalt, drawing a circle as he was explaining the idea of completion...and as he was drawing he said "and sometimes we start things we shouldn't have, and just go back." Not everything needs to be finished. After hearing that I was able to let go of something I had been stubbornly thinking I needed to do. But the truth was I shouldn't have started it in the first place.
    Sorry for the long comment. Good post! :)

    1. Never apologize for long comments, dear. I'm glad you enjoyed this post and that you were able to relate to part of it.


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