5.09.2018

6 Ways To Know If You Are Compatible With Someone [Or If You're Really Not]


Like I've said many times before, relationships are something you choose to be in, not something you do for entertainment, to pass the time, or to look cool.  Yes, they are fun, but the commitment level that's required will either make or break you as a couple.

Being compatible with your significant other isn't something you can force, though.  People talk about "the spark" or "the click", and while sometimes, this can just be a fantasy wish, most of the time, it's 100% true.  It's either there or it's not.  You two are either going to work out or not.  There's only so much distance you can cover before "choosing" to continue dating someone may just not be the healthiest decision for you.

So how do you know if you're compatible or not?  What will it take to make this work?  How can this be a good match even if your zodiac compatibility summary is below 50%?  How do you know if you're forcing this relationship to happen or not?


1.  You don't try to change each other.
You don't start dating someone because you like a, b, and c about them, but plan on changing d, e, and f later on down the road.  You aren't dating them to change them.  You're dating them because you love who they already are and who they will ever be.  This doesn't mean that some things won't eventually change, or need to change, but both of your mentalities should never be "How can I make this person better fit for me?", rather  -"How can I better myself for this person?"

2.  You're able to reach compromises together and look out for each other's best interest.
Regardless of how frustrating a situation may be, your love for one another should always be at the core of how you want something to be resolved.  Your goal is to see your partner win - at their job, at their dreams, at life itself.  Whether that means you giving up a habit, or making a conscious effort to say/do something, or coming to a fair agreement regarding a situation - you will do just that.  You will do whatever it takes.  At all times.  And know your significant other thinks the same.

3.  You both know how to fight.
Arguments are inevitable.  Two people won't always agree.  Two spirits won't always have harmony.  Two humans won't always be selfless.  But when these issues arise, how do you handle it as a couple?  Is there name-calling?  Are sarcastic comments dropped often?  Do you tear each other down?  Is it you against your partner?  Or you both against the problem?   Are you a team or both flying solo, hoping the other will reach your level at some point?

4.  You ask, study and know each other's insecurities; and work to overcome them.
Insecurities can seem silly when you're the one dealing with them, but having a boyfriend/girlfriend who wants to know them regardless of how foolish they may be to you is a healthy sign that they care and want to crush your fears.  Even a strong relationship isn't perfect, but it's the weaknesses that are brought to life that can be worked through and conquered to continue building a solid foundation for the future.  And you should feel secure enough in your relationship to be able to tell your partner of any chipping in your armor.

5.  You feel safe with them.
I'm not just referring to physical safety, but emotional and mental safety as well.  You trust them, you know they are and always will be honest with you, you don't question their love, or doubt their level of commitment to the relationship, you can be at your most vulnerable and exposed moment and know, without a doubt, that they won't leave, that they'll stay even when things get ugly and rough, that they'll fight for not only you, but you both as a couple, and that they'll be there to help you pick up any broken pieces when it's been a tough day.

6.  You bring balance to each other's lives.
Whether you knew you needed that balance or not, having them in your lives has made you realize what a blessing they are and how stabilizing their presence is.  This can be in anything from personality differences, weaknesses and strengths, how they teach you things you never knew, the way they communicate, etc.  It's as complex and as simple as that.


Compatibility isn't about having a picture-perfect romance and relationship.  Nothing is perfect in this world.  But two imperfect people can make a very perfect right.  And when not only the compatibility, but the desire and effort to work through things as a couple is there, I can guarantee you this:

You two have a shot.

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Originally published on Thought Catalog.

5.07.2018

50 Short But Meaningful Text Messages You Can Send To Your Significant Other

I'm sure we can all attest that "texting" is a convenience, but sometimes a very annoying form of communication.  Using it to send encouraging little reminders to your boyfriend/girlfriend and to build up one's relationship makes it not such a bad thing, though.  Especially if your work schedules clash, you can't see each other often, or you don't have time for a phone call.

It's fine to be a person of few words, but it doesn't hurt to make those few words count.  And if your partner's love language is "words of affirmation", chances are high that the following text message examples will gain you brownie points.  I do ask that you use only the ones you truly mean.  And have fun!


1.  You are my favorite person.

2.  You make me happy.

3.  I'm proud to be with you.

4.  Thank you for loving me.

5.  Thank you for letting me be the one to love you.

6.  I will always do my best with you.

7.  Our relationship matters to me.

8.  I love your smile.

9.  You fascinate me.

10.  I admire you.

11.  How can I pray for you today?

12.  I'm kind of crazy about you.

13.  I'm thinking about you.

14.  Hey hot stuff

15.  I can't wait to hug you

16.  Hey guess what?..  I really like you.

17.  Your eyes are my favorite.

18.  Date night soon?

19.  Hey don't make plans tonight.  I'm coming over.

20.  Can we take more cute pictures together?

21.  I will always be intentional with us.

22.  I hope you have a good day at work.

23.  Please be safe.

24.  You're always on my mind.

25.  You're my favorite notification.

26.  Thank you for being patient with me.

27.  You are an amazing partner.

28.  I'm so blessed to have you in my life.

29.  I am so attracted to you.

30.  You're the first person I think of when I wake up.

31.  I'm your biggest fan.

32.  You're the only one who can make me smile when I'm in a bad mood.

33.  You're not only my lover, but you're also my best friend.

34.  What should we do this weekend?

35.  We're cute.

36.  Loving you was the second best thing I ever did.  The first was finding you.

37.  You're a game changer.

38.  You're the first person I want to share news with.

39.  I don't know why you put up with me, but wow, I'm glad you do.

40.  I choose you.  And I'm going to keep choosing you.

41.  I know you're busy, but I just wanted to remind you that I'm thinking about you.

42.  I care about you.

43.  You look beautiful today.  I haven't seen you yet, but I don't have to.

44.  You add color to my world.

45.  Talking to you makes my day.

46.  I will always want you.

47.  You're worth it.

48.  It's crazy how much you add to my life.

49.  I don't think you'll ever realize how much you mean to me.

50.  Hey, I love you.

5.03.2018

It's Just [My Skin Care Routine]

no makeup, no filter
I posted this picture on my Instagram story a few days ago and have gotten an overwhelming amount of comments and messages asking me what products I use in my skin care routine.

Well, wonder no more!:)

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Morning:

Cleansing -
The first thing I do when I get out of bed is turn music on, wash my face and brush my teeth.  I make sure my hands are freshly washed and clean before splashing hot water onto my face.  While my face is still damp, I take my cleansing balm from Botanics and scoop about a dime-sized portion out, rub it between my fingers and apply it gently.  I then let it sit for a couple minutes (usually, I brush my teeth during this time).
When you purchase this balm, Botanics provides a linen cloth to use in your face wash routine, and when removing the balm from my face, I soak the cloth in hot water and then gently press it against my skin.  I don't rub the ointment off.  The hot cloth naturally draws it off of my skin, yet leaves it feeling soft and smooth.

This cleansing balm has a variety of delicious and natural oils such as olive, jojoba, bergamot, lemon, and rosehip (which is rich in Vitamin A, as well as Omegas 3 and 6); & organic ingredients like beeswax and shea butter.

P.S.  It smells heavenly.

| I purchased this product at Target. |

Moisturizing -
The directions on the cleansing balm jar say to seal your pores with a cold water compress after rinsing, but instead, while my pores are still open from the hot water cleanse, I apply a drop of Young Living 100% therapeutic grade essential oil directly on to any blemishes and yes, even scars.  I have experienced firsthand how it has helped my scars be less prominent.
Young Living oils are 100% pure and can be a bit intense to your skin if you aren't use to their potency.  To dilute it, use a fatty oil (olive, coconut, jojoba, almond) when applying it to your skin.  This is actually all I use to moisturize: 100% pure organic coconut oil and a drop of YL's lemon oil.

Young Living Lemon essential oil, $15.13
*as a Young Living Distributor, I can get you this bottle at a 24% discount.  Contact me if you're interested!*

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Night:

Cleansing -
My nightly cleansing routine consists of shower + hand-crocheted cotton washcloth + my evening cleanser: Alba Botanica's Acnedote scrub.  It is made from 100% vegetarian ingredients, not animal tested, no paragons, phthalates, or synthetic fragrances.  It is oil-free, contains ground walnut shell, and 2% salicylic acid acne medication formulated from willow bark.  This stuff is tough on acne, but at the same time, super gentle for facial skin.  It has a very cooling effect as well, and I've noticed that after rinsing it off, my face feels like it just spent a few minutes in front of a fan.  It's magical.

Once I'm out of the shower, I use the same moisturizing technique that I use in my morning routine: coconut oil and a drop of Young Living lemon oil.

| I purchased this product at Target. |

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...a little extra - 

I don't know if any of you struggle with those lovely little bags under your eyes every morning, but if you do, I got something that will change your life.
Yes, I already talked about a Botanics product that I use for cleansing, but this stuff is amazing when it comes to getting rid of that annoying saggy skin.  This is an eye roll-on ointment made with hibiscus flower extract.  It works wonders.
I apply it after both, my morning and evening, skin care routine.

| I purchased this product at Target. |

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Disclaimer: I am in no way affiliated with Botanics or Alba Botanica.  My reviews are based purely on my own experience with these products.
I am a member & distributor of Young Living Essential Oils.  When purchasing through our site, please use my member #1333654.  Or contact me personally with any questions you may have about our company or how you can get $300 worth of product and a 24% discount for life!