God’s Sovereignty In Your Singleness

A friend of mine texted me the other day and asked “Why do you think I’m almost 23 and still single, Raquel?”  
I've also had single girls email me and ask "Why does this always happen to me?  I like a guy, we start talking, but then he leaves.  Why am I not enough??"

Gosh, how do you respond to something like that? 

First of all, I really wish I could tell you a-b-and-c of why this 'always happens to you'.  But I don't know.  I don't know God's plan for you.  

But [secondly], I do know that you are enough.  You are so much more than you even think you are.  And you're 'enough' for the perfect plan He has for you.  AND the person He has waiting for you too. - who, by the way, might just be experiencing the same feelings that you are right now.  

It's easy to think of ourselves as 'the problem'.  We're quick to blame ourselves for still being single and that we ourselves are the reason everything turns out wrong.  Even then, even when it feels like everyone is discarding you along the road, you know Who you can trust.  You know that God's timing is perfect - even though it's really, really, really hard to believe that sometimes.  And to wait.  (Honestly, the waiting part is probably the suckiest...)

If you believe that God is sovereign, you are acknowledging His sovereignty over EVERYTHING.  You can't say 'Okay, God, You're sovereign over my day-to-day activities, my meals, my friends...but not my singleness.  Cuz being single sucks and I want to have a boyfriend/girlfriend already.'  That's not how it works, peeps.  He's either sovereign over everything or nothing.  

Is God sovereign in your singleness?  Have you entrusted that part of your life to His care?  Have you given up trying to find the right one on your own and trusted that He will help you find the right one in His perfect timing?

I know it's hard.  Being single can be really difficult.  For me, it was pretty darn fabulous once I got past the pity-party stage.  Seriously.  Single life rocks.  (You're probably sneering at me right now.  I can almost see it.)  But I promise that once you give over your life - your WHOLE life - to God and trust that everything will fall into place according to HIS timeline (sorry, not yours), you'll have a whole different outlook.  On everything.  

Nothing is wrong with you.  
You are not the problem.  
You're single because you're meant to be single right now.  
And when that guy or girl comes along, you'll know.
How?  Because they won't be perfect, but they'll be perfect for you.


  1. This post has been very encouraging to me, Raquel. Thank-you for sharing this. <3

    1. You're very welcome. Glad to hear that God used it to bless you:)

  2. I really needed this! Thanks bunches for posting!

    1. You are so welcome! Thanks for reading and commenting.

  3. I know I don't comment much, but This is a great post, Raquel!
    Thanks for the encouragement. It seriously does seem some times as though all the Christian guys are hiding under rocks (which of course isn't at all true haha)
    A modest fashion blog;

    1. Thank you, Natasha! Stay strong, girl. Trust God.