The Number One Question You Should Ask Yourself About the Guy You Really Like

Is he respectful?  Is he considerate?  Is he romantic and wooing?  Does he give you space when you need it?

Sure, these are all great points and questions that you should be able to answer "yes" to, but what is more important than all of those?

As a follower of Christ, my utmost goal in life is to live according to His Word and to glorify God with all I do, say and think.  This does not mean I always achieve that goal.  It's a day to day process of giving up myself, and giving it all over to Him.  This includes anything related to boyfriends, dating, potential-future-husband-material, etc.

We all desire a man who will treat us the way we deserve to be treated.  A man who treats us the best.
Who is the only One who has already done this?
So He should be your highest standard.

Am I the one saying this?  Not exactly.

There are many passages in Scripture in which God says for us to be holy as He is holy (Leviticus 11:44, Leviticus 20:7, 1 Peter 1:16).  And if you are called to be holy, and you desire to marry a man who loves the LORD as you do, then the holiness standard should be something you expect from the man you really like.

So what if he's a neat Christian guy?  Don't marry him.  Avoid him like the plague, as Matt Chandler says.  What you're looking for is a man who is directionally headed towards godliness.  He's gonna have weaknesses, and flaws, and he's gonna fail.  A ton.  Because he's human.  As are you.  But if he has a desire to grow into a more Christ-like follower, then that is the kind of man you want.  You're not looking for a perfect man.  You're looking for a man who knows his weaknesses, knows he needs the LORD, and is truly striving to follow Him and be like Him.
And what better man than that to commit to marry and spend the rest of your life with, striving for more of Christ together?

What is the number one question you should ask yourself about the guy you really like?  It's this:

Does he love the LORD our God with all his heart, soul, mind and strength - and is he endeavoring to live his life for His glory alone in all that he does, says and thinks?

Without that mindset, ladies, a relationship with him won't last long.  Why?  Because without God at the center, anything and everything will fail.  And if you can't say "yes" to that question about the guy you really like, then say goodbye to him and move on.  If you're looking for a man who will treat you the best, he won't be it.

In closing, I'd like to share a quote I read one time, written by a guy:
"Ladies, we want to treat you well.  We really do.  You don't have to tell us every 10 minutes how you deserve to be treated.  You go on and on about how you deserve to have the door opened for you, how if your husband doesn't cry when you're walking down the aisle that you're going to walk away, and how your man eater have the abs of Ryan Gosling.  That's a lot of pressure.  Instead of looking for a Disney prince to kiss you in your sleep, how about you look for a man who will love you like Christ loves the Church?"


  1. Thank you for this. <3 I will be keeping this in my mind always.

  2. Such a great reminder, thank you!

    xoxo >>Hannah<<

  3. Amen, Raquel! This is something I've been thinking on a lot lately. Thanks for this reminder. :)

    Dani xoxo
    a vapor in the wind